Posted by Hym
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That was beautiful, Iota... The tick tock time of our hearts and those things called Love. I didn't think I'd see anything I'd consider insightful, as I and those close to me celebrate gratitude much more often, daily even, without noting time or special days.....But, in this case your words touched home.
Often, I hear my friends talk about the things they endure and the loses they have while staying unerringly the fathers they are. The divisions of the sexes is just as horrible now as it was when I was a child, when women were the subjects of derision. That was painful then and it's the same now.
Yet, this is all changing as it has changed ever since my early years here, knowing the beauty that leaves us with the nurturing that it's presence creates, and how it can only be enjoyed, loved. Some of us never limited any of that beauty. It is the same for all parents.
It is not the mistakes we make, but the unyielding honesty with which we speak to our children and how we show them the ways we know to be humane, especially to themselves and their truths.
Sometimes it isn't until our children are out in the world, making it on their own that we get to see the good, the deeply ethical lives they live and the relaxed ability they have grown within themselves to see the world as opportunity and a constant choice. These relationships are surely mutually rich and strengthening with both of us.
And at times, as you have written, we are parents to many and take on the role of honesty and directness, protector and teacher...whether or not we had the same growing up. Our rewards, even as we seek none, are many and often surprising.
(By the way that was a Sinatra impersonator. Good voice, too tall, Frank never danced like that.)
Happy Father's Day!
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. There are many precious things on this earth, this was one of those moments.
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