Posted by Hym
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HEY Malisa, Sorry to hear that, but we're here for more adventure.... on so many levels. It is no longer a truth that can be denied....Our families are much, much bigger than any family we have been born into.
I know this as fact, and I doubt that many here on Avalon have come from a family as big as the one I was born into, and the one that grew up around me. If there is any common takeaway, any cool life lesson that comes from being in a large family, it is the undeniable reality that all of humanity is all of the family we need, all of the family we want, and ultimately all of the family we choose it to be.
Familial relations changing is one of the more dynamic ones we are adjusting to. Like many things in my life, I've been doing this all along, just as some here on Avalon have been doing. The very good, even the life sustaining aspects of these challenges, show us who our real families are.
From the very earliest years of my childhood I enjoyed some aspects of being in a very big family and then some aspects of being with some of them were hard to deal with, things that I didn't need to learn, things that were the jobs of parents to do. My active independence, a trait that some of my brothers and sisters had in varying degrees, was and is empowerment, not isolation. This independence was all a very natural exploration and discovery that found comfort outside of a crowded house, a house in which there were and still are siblings that I love and appreciate, even if we do not have any contact on a physical level, nor using any common means of gross, material communication. As I got out into the world I realized much more clearly that my real family was alive and active within all of humanity, at least those I choose to be with.
Some would say that because of my unusual upbringing that it should be harder for me not to be around my brothers and sisters, or even not to have talked to them for many, many years. That has never been the case. Then again some would say that it was a naturally easy thing for me, having lived with 15 brothers and sisters of varying ages, 12 alive now at last I've heard. This is much closer to the truth. I know hearing this from a member of a very, very large family may not be relative, but to me it has always been a choice everyone has had and still has...forever.
To those who seem to be isolated, those who really have lived closer to the Heart, their own Heart, we know that there is no such thing as isolation when we ask, we listen, we share with each other. That valley of emotional darkness is only there because we came here to travel beyond it, together. We came to uplift each other and then naturally learn to uplift ourselves. Either way, I understand the thread as a calling out that we make our family wherever we go.
Although this has always been true, it is now an awakening for many who never thought that deeply about the lack of love or loyalty some families have within. For some of us, the isolation from others who we thought would understand us, showed us that while our life paths are lived searching for truths, these deeper, personal truths that are now lost during these deep attacks upon the sovereignty over our bodies and our freedoms, has revealed to each of us just how important it has always been to be free from emotional manipulations. It is undeniable that many of those deep emotional betrayals, let's call them what they really are, originated in our own families.
For many of us the basis for our individual strengths and courage comes from our upbringing, even if we had to bring ourselves up, when our inherent inner strengths told us to become independent of familial weaknesses early on. Knowing this does not make it any easier, yet it is vital to moving on and living, which is much easier than living in the denial of our basic human rights just to get along with family. That family is not a family. We take the good things we shared with them with us, and leave the past as it was.
In the world of corporations overtly running governmental policies, many good, heart centered people are now seeing the blindness of family members to the overwhelming and irrefutable facts present, even facts about survivability. To me this shows the lack of awareness and emotional weaknesses our families have had all along. In the past the average person would only recall those deeper disparities when passing on and out of the body. The gift now is that we don't have to take those realizations with us as we leave and move on, with or without our temporal bodies in tact.
In the same way, but much stronger, are the ties within our families that have held fast with us, the love showing support whether or not they agree with our choices, and in a unique condition of a deeper comfort our mutual understanding seems very different now. Welcomed, but singularly different than before in all of our times together in the past, and as such are appreciated much more.
Many of your Relatives may not be Family
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