You know what, I really wish black people themselves didn't use that word. But they do. All the damn time, like a play thing. And I don't understand it. Gay people embrace the word 'queer', even when it's also supposed to be a derogatory term.
It would be tremendously advantageous, in my view, in stemming the tide against bigotry, if the targets of bigotry didn't constantly use the same bigoted terms they rail against.