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    Your Body is Their Weapon - We're all Patients Now
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    ( THIS HAS PROBABLY ALREADY BEEN POSTED SOMEWHERE ON THE FORUM SINCE IT'S PANDEMIC-RELATED, BUT IT'S ALSO ABOUT THE KINDS OF TECHNIQUES THAT NARCISSISTS USE TO CONTROL AND FEED OFF OF THEIR VICTIMS, FROM GAS LIGHTING TO OBFUSCATING THE TRUTH.
    THE WORK OF DR. SAM VAKNIN, EXPERT ON NARCISSISM, IS SOURCED.
    POLLY HAS BEEN DOING A GREAT JOB WITH HER RECENT VIDEOS, HELPING US TO CONNECT THE DOTS, IMHO.)

    "As a follow on to my "Is This Torture?" video, I discuss the way The Medical Tyranny is turning us all into Chronic Illness Outpatients. I rely on an excellent article by Sam Vaknin called "The Body As A Torture Chamber" and I apply his arguments to what is happening with the #Pandemic."

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    Review from Alexandra Bruce on the video in post #228 just above:
    Your Body is Their Weapon - We're all Patients Now
    https://forbiddenknowledgetv.net/you...-patients-now/

    "A couple of weeks ago, Amazing Polly made a popular video, Is This Torture?
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_c...ature=emb_logo
    ...introducing the idea that the coronavirus response, with the lockdowns and the masks and the school closures and the economic shutdown; the self-isolation – that all of this is not only tantamount to torture, according to Amnesty International’s own definition but it is actively engaging advanced psychological torture techniques that are found in a National Defense Intelligence College manual.

    In today’s video, she supplies more evidence to support her claim, from a world authority on narcissism, Dr. Sam Vaknin, who I’ve been aware of since 2005, when I devoured every page of his website with excerpts from his 1999 book, ‘Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited’.

    Polly refers here to Vaknin’s article, ‘The Body as Torture Chamber,’ which compares the world of a chronically ill patient and their interactions with the medical system to being tortured; how their own body becomes the device of torture.Polly believes that this #CoronaHoax global pandemic psyop is clearly capitalizing on the psychology of torture. She says, “They understand about the doctor-patient relationship and they are making us all into patients…

    “This should be definitely against the Geneva Conventions. It should be against any form of human decency, to treat someone who is not sick as if they are sick. There are psychological conditions named for that. One of them is Munchausen Syndrome…where a parent gets so much control and so much attention from having a sick child that the parent [intentionally] makes the child sick by giving them little doses of poison or via other methods. This seems to me what’s happening on a a gigantic scale with the coronavirus response.”

    An understanding of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is very empowering for everyday life and it is especially helpful for navigating this Fourth Generation Warfare that we’re now in, where we see so many classically Narcissistic control tactics being deployed against the populace.
    One of these is Projection, of which Vaknin says: “The narcissist seeks to maintain his inflated fantasy of himself. He denies, slices and splits off, and ‘evacuates’ or projects onto others emotions, cognitions (thoughts), traits, impulses, behaviors and qualities that contradict and contravene [the narcissist’s grandiose Ego Ideal].”

    Being that most of us are under stress from the extreme psychological manipulation we’re being subjected to, in addition to the financial, interpersonal and social pressures, I believe it’s of therapeutic benefit to listen to Polly’s presentation."
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    Another interesting topic that relates sexual abuse and pathological narcissism can be found here, in Onawah's post on the "To be or not to be a conspirator with Ariane Bilheran"-thread.

    Link:

    The People Haven’t Risen Up For The Same Reason Abuse Victims Don’t Leave Their Abusers
    FEBRUARY 27, 2021
    CAITLIN JOHNSTONE

    https://caitlinjohnstone.com/2021/02...their-abusers/

    Accompanying text:

    "There was a great exchange in a recent interview with singer-songwriter FKA twigs regarding her relationship with actor Shia LaBeouf, who she is currently suing for “relentless abuse” including assault and sexual battery.



    From The Independent:

    In a CBS This Morning interview on Thursday (18 February), King asked the musician: “Nobody who’s been in this position likes this question, and I often wonder if it’s even appropriate to ask… why didn’t you leave?”

    Twigs replied: “I know that you’re asking it out of love, but like, I’m just going to make a stance and say I’m not going to answer that question anymore because the question should really be to the abuser, ‘Why are you holding someone hostage with abuse?’”

    She continued: “People say, ‘Oh, it can’t have been that bad, because she would’ve left.’ And it’s like, no, because it was that bad, I couldn’t leave.”

    “Because it was that bad, I couldn’t leave.”

    This is what so few people understand about abusive relationships. People see friends and family members stuck in relationships that are obviously horrible and say “She should leave him! Why doesn’t she just leave??” If the abuse happened in secret the first question your loved ones ask when you escape is “Why did you let it go on so long? Why didn’t you leave sooner?”

    Those who have escaped abusive relationships know how intensely hurtful this question is, how violent it feels to have it inflicted upon you by people who are supposed to be on your side and supporting you. It feels so violent because you have perspective that others do not: you understand that your inability to leave the abusive relationship was itself a fundamental product of the abuse.

    Abusive relationships aren’t just one partner doing cruel things to another. If they were, there would be no relationship: there’d just be a woman getting assaulted one time by her boyfriend and then immediately leaving. Abusive relationships necessarily include the construction of psychological barriers to leaving, or else they would not exist. Victims of abuse are kept constantly confused, off-balance, insecure and unsure of themselves, because their abuse always necessarily includes the element of psychological manipulation.

    You’re being caged psychologically, and you’re kept too confused and off-balance to even be aware that that’s what’s happening. So you stay where you are, just as surely as you would if you’d been placed in a physical cage.

    This is why people stay in abusive relationships, whether it’s abusive relationships with significant others or abusive relationships with empires.

    As a collective, we remain in our current relationship with abusive power structures because we are collectively kept confused, off-balance, insecure and unsure of ourselves, as a critical element of our collective abuse is mass-scale psychological manipulation.

    Vast fortunes are poured into keeping us from realizing that we are being exploited by powerful wealth hoarders while our nation’s resources are sent to fight wars of planetary domination. That our ecosystem is being destroyed for profit with no real plan for what to do when it’s gone. That we are being increasingly oppressed and impoverished to keep us from having enough awareness and wealth to dethrone our rulers. And that it doesn’t have to be this way at all.

    And make no mistake, it absolutely does not have to be this way. The difference between our relationship with the oligarchic empire and FKA twigs’ relationship with Shia LaBeouf is that we are far, far bigger and far, far stronger than our abusers. This isn’t Shia LaBeouf abusing a small female pop star, this is Shia LaBeouf abusing a great giantess the size of a planet. They work so hard to keep us confused and manipulated because they know the second they cease to do so we can crush them like a mosquito.

    But the dynamic is the same in both cases: we are being victimized by manipulative abusers. The manipulation is part of the abuse. It is not our fault that they cage our minds like this, it’s theirs. They are to blame, not the ordinary people just trying desperately to get by, voting for the status quo in election after election because they’ve been kept too confused and insecure to see clearly what’s going on. We haven’t left our abusive relationship yet because it is that bad.

    The good news, of course, is that people do leave. They do escape their abusive relationships. The light of truth cannot remain hidden forever, and sociopathic manipulators do not understand the depths of human experience well enough to block it out. They are shallow, and we are deep. They cannot understand the dimensions of ourselves which are secretly moving toward freedom well enough to anticipate and prevent those movements.

    If you have a loved one who is in an abusive relationship, you draw attention to what you are seeing, you let them know that you are there for them, you trust their inner wisdom to find a way to escape someday, and when they do you are there waiting for them with the engine running. When you have a collective that is in an abusive relationship, you draw attention to the abusive dynamics you are seeing, you trust humanity’s unfathomable depths to produce an escape route, and when the time comes to rise up, you are there at the ready."

    THANKS Onawah! It's a good idea to bring this thread back and continue the discussion!

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    Sometimes you read things and think, why isn't this taught to everyone?

    Of course, if it were, a lot of the control systems that oppress us wouldn't work as effectively as they do. Nevertheless, anyone who has been the victim of the approaches outlined in @Herve 's opening post, which is likely everyone of us, would recognise how insidiously effective they can be to the unprepared.

    Until you've fully confronted the psychopath/sociopath/passive aggressive narcissist most normal people can't comprehend just how damaging and draining such encounters can be. We need to be armoured as individuals, groups and societies to stop this minority of people from poisoning all around them. Unchecked, they are as hazardous to human life as any chemical or weapon known to humanity!

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    this is a must watch if you are interested in understanding narcissism from the inside.
    there are many good comments below the video too

    How I Experience My Narcissism: Aware, Not Healed

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=

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    Pandemic Slaves and Their Neo-feudal Lords: Envy-fuelled Global Insurrection
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    "Envy, uncertainty, and rage globalized will lead to social unrest. The pandemic spells the end of entrepreneurship, small to medium businesses, and self-employment and the rise of the gig temp contractor economy. It also catalyzes the shift from the real economy to the trading in expectations."
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    In this excellent video interview, Dr Lee Merritt gives an astonishingly clear and simple description of how psychopaths function, what they do, and how easy it is for them to reach high levels in any organization — including government.

    Start in at 17:27, just for a few minutes. It's really worth it.


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    The reason why this world today has gone so out of hand is because a lot of good people have never studied or understood psychopathy, which is why many can’t accept or believe the truths about how the world is run and call them conspiracy theories, because “nobody can be this evil”. What they miss is, that it is not so much about being evil (effect), but more about missing a part of their personality that most people do have (cause).
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    No doubt that is because psychopaths have not allowed that information to be widely disseminated!
    Quote Posted by BoR (here)
    The reason why this world today has gone so out of hand is because a lot of good people have never studied or understood psychopathy, which is why many can’t accept or believe the truths about how the world is run and call them conspiracy theories, because “nobody can be this evil”. What they miss is, that it is not so much about being evil (effect), but more about missing a part of their personality that most people do have (cause).
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    Narc Repellant
    • I am a narcissistic psychopath and I'm aware of what I am and what I do. I understand also my kind inside out because I have spent a very long time observing my kind, interacting with my kind…

    • I know my kind inside out and that's why I'm able to blow apart these myths which keep you stuck. And therefore part of protecting yourself is to become knock repellent.

    • If you are an empath you have an addiction to the narcissist and your addiction sits at the heart of you trying to ensure that you enter into one or more of the five arenas of interaction for the purposes of feeding that addiction. It does so through the creation of emotional thinking. This means that you will use flawed logic. You’ll make decisions which seem sensible to you but actually they're not it'll cause the corruption of your empathic …

    • Most people fail at no contact because they don't actually understand how to do it and because of the influence of their emotional thinking. Many people believe they can't do no contact when actually they can. It of course requires some effort it requires discipline but it can be achieved. And of course this is the thing that damages us the most.

      We absolutely hate no contact because you are not only having removed yourself from us but by having nothing more to do with us ever again, you are telling us that we simply do not exist and that is anathema to us. It’s the most potent weapon that you have.


    • All the thoughts about fluffing the narcissist, trying to maintain some kind of relationship with the narcissist, looking to get revenge on the narcissist in some alternative way beyond no contact all of those things pale by comparison with the effect of a no contact regime we can't stand it.
    Narc Repellant (7 minutes)
    Make yourself Narc Repellant by knowing what to do and just as importantly what you must NOT do.
    Do you want to become Narc Repellant?
    Here are the myths and the truths about what keeps the narcissist at bay.

    In this two part Logic Bulletin, crammed with information, you will learn how to make yourself Narc Repellant. To achieve this, you need to understand the myths about keeping the narcissist at bay, why those items are myths and why they do not work. This will ensure you do not use them and you do not fall into the trap set by your Emotional Thinking to use you to fall into them.

    This material will also set out the truths about becoming a Narc Repellant so you not only know what to avoid, but also what you must do.

    The detailed Logic Bulletin addresses the following key components, amongst many more:
    • The effect of Massive Wounding
    • The effect of the narcissist gaining a new IPPS
    • The impact of you holding damaging information about the narcissist
    • The effect of you exposing the narcissist
    • What happens when you unleash The Attack Dog
    • How the narcissist will respond when you have the narcissist worked out
    • The perils of intel gathering on the narcissist
    • The Mastermind Narcissist
    • The Out of Reach concept
    • The Walk Away, Don’t Talk Away principle
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    Quote Posted by RunningDeer (here)
    Narc Repellant
    • I am a narcissistic psychopath and I'm aware of what I am and what I do. I understand also my kind inside out because I have spent a very long time observing my kind, interacting with my kind…

    • I know my kind inside out and that's why I'm able to blow apart these myths which keep you stuck. And therefore part of protecting yourself is to become knock repellent.

    • If you are an empath you have an addiction to the narcissist and your addiction sits at the heart of you trying to ensure that you enter into one or more of the five arenas of interaction for the purposes of feeding that addiction. It does so through the creation of emotional thinking. This means that you will use flawed logic. You’ll make decisions which seem sensible to you but actually they're not it'll cause the corruption of your empathic …

    • Most people fail at no contact because they don't actually understand how to do it and because of the influence of their emotional thinking. Many people believe they can't do no contact when actually they can. It of course requires some effort it requires discipline but it can be achieved. And of course this is the thing that damages us the most.

      We absolutely hate no contact because you are not only having removed yourself from us but by having nothing more to do with us ever again, you are telling us that we simply do not exist and that is anathema to us. It’s the most potent weapon that you have.

    • All the thoughts about fluffing the narcissist, trying to maintain some kind of relationship with the narcissist, looking to get revenge on the narcissist in some alternative way beyond no contact all of those things pale by comparison with the effect of a no contact regime we can't stand it.
    Narc Repellant (7 minutes)
    Make yourself Narc Repellant by knowing what to do and just as importantly what you must NOT do.
    Do you want to become Narc Repellant?
    Here are the myths and the truths about what keeps the narcissist at bay.

    In this two part Logic Bulletin, crammed with information, you will learn how to make yourself Narc Repellant. To achieve this, you need to understand the myths about keeping the narcissist at bay, why those items are myths and why they do not work. This will ensure you do not use them and you do not fall into the trap set by your Emotional Thinking to use you to fall into them.

    This material will also set out the truths about becoming a Narc Repellant so you not only know what to avoid, but also what you must do.

    The detailed Logic Bulletin addresses the following key components, amongst many more:
    • The effect of Massive Wounding
    • The effect of the narcissist gaining a new IPPS
    • The impact of you holding damaging information about the narcissist
    • The effect of you exposing the narcissist
    • What happens when you unleash The Attack Dog
    • How the narcissist will respond when you have the narcissist worked out
    • The perils of intel gathering on the narcissist
    • The Mastermind Narcissist
    • The Out of Reach concept
    • The Walk Away, Don’t Talk Away principle
    Holy Moly, this is powerful, powerful stuff. I have just read post and will watch the video later, thank you so much Paula. I had to come to a rather painful decision to simply stop interaction with my sister because of my recognized vulnerability to listening to my "older sister" dynamics and her intense narcissistic manipulations over the years and realizing how incredibly destructive it was to have interactions and manipulations by her. She was my big narcissist denial. Just didn't want to see it until I just could not take any more.

    I accept my role in playing out the "I listen to my big sis" part, but over and over the manipulations are debilitating to an empath. I just decided and it is without malice or hard feelings at this time that it is just healthier not to get lost in that swamp again and again. I want to emphasize that I understand it takes 2 to tango. In no way do I see the empath as innately good and the narcissist bad. She doesn't get to enact her role without my participation but I have never been able to balance the relationship to a basic healthy interaction so I just let go.

    I have to go back and look at this thread with new eyes. My perceptions have changed over time and I bet I get a lot more out of this now.

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    An observation I have made, and I am not sure it has been talked about here. It's an experience I have had, spread over 25 years.

    It's also a word of caution.

    What do PN's (pathological narcissists) do? Search for NS, narcissistic supply.
    Where is the largest supply to be found? Where victims of PN look for help...

    It's easier to locate foodsources for PN's. They have many of those together, just in one place.

    Supportgroups for instance. Workshops. Sources of information about PN, centers for child abuse,
    domestic violence, you name it.

    How they operate? They "claim" the territory! (Don't they always).Which can be done in many ways.
    It's very treacherous... because the victims "trust" the place where they come for help.

    PN's are very good in impersonating. Pretending to be what they are not.

    Sometimes they will "convince" an author to publish a book (for them), and misuse that way "their position".

    Or create a self-help group for abuse-victims.
    The possibilities are just endless.

    At least someone like Sam Vaknin informs people he IS a PN and doesn't "hide" that. Plus his info is in my opinion quite "spot on".

    Not every source is like that - misleading - of course. But many are. It takes careful discernment to know "which is which".

    And while the info ("the message") may be valid, the source of it ("the messenger") is NOT. It's just their (PN) way to "entrap" potential victims.
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    Default Re: 20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

    Middle Mid Range Narcissist : Angel With A Dirty Face
    The angel with the dirty face is a middle mid-range narcissist for the most part who is utterly convinced of their inherent goodness and moreover they have an unquenchable desire for the world to know that they are a good person. That is a differentiating factor towards an empath. Empaths don't need to shout about it. This facade of virtue and integrity is fundamental. It is how they truly believe they are because this is what the world must know about them.

    The angel with the dirty face has a towering conviction that they are good and you had better believe it because if you do not well then that makes you a bad person. Why? Because you’re threatening their control.

    You are oblivious to the touch which taints and the soiled footprints which beat a path back and forth to you. These individuals manifest as the patient friend who listens to your tale of woe, the kindly physician with the twinkling eyes who resides at bedside manner, the soothing carer who chats the elderly and infirm, the diligent charity worker and the host of the site which professes to guide you the victim out of the maze of
    narcissistic abuse.

    The angel with the dirty face is very much the preserve the middle mid-range narcissist. He or she truly believes that they are a good person. They want you to know it too and you must accept it. Well because in their world, it's true. They believe that they care about other people. They think that they do good work, but they must be acknowledged for it and this must occur repeatedly. They want the recognition. They want you to tell them how good they are that they are helping people. That they see you understand that they are honest and decent. Of course all of these responses are the fuel that they instinctively crave, although they are unable to recognize that. They see nothing wrong with being identified, highlighted, and rewarded for their sterling work. After all, doesn’t that just tell more people about the good that they are doing?

    So how do you find the filth beneath the purity? How do you ascertain whether that person truly does feel that emotional empathy is good of heart and mind and is not just part of a facade or a veneer? There are two detergents which remove the masking facade and expose the dirt that this lurks underneath.

    The first concerns recognition as I mentioned earlier, the angel with the dirty face must have recognition. Recognition equates to fuel equates to control. Watch what happens if you fail to acknowledge that person's contribution or if you record it to somebody else an empathic individual may be hurt that their efforts have gone unrecognized, but they're largely keep it to themselves not wishing to be seen as churlish or attention seeking. They may leave it to another to correct the error but they certainly won't make a song and dance about being overlooked…

    The second method of exposure is that of challenge. An empathic person recognizes that people have views and opinions that it matters that they should be able to articulate them and that they are not invalidated. I have learned much about this in my interactions with other people and I am intrigued by their capacity to allow this. They will allow other people to state their case. They will advance their own but recognize that the two can exist side by side. It is genuine tolerance. It isn't done for show or for kudos but born out of the empathic trait of decency of allowing the voices of others and also of being an excellent listener. Not so the angel with a dirty face. If you challenge their mythology, methodology of how they dispense their apparent care, if you disagree with their views, if you suggest there is a better way, you will then see the angelic coating recede and the dirt beneath come very much before.

    When challenged in this way the angel with a dirty face feels their superiority attacked and therefore since they are a mid-range narcissist in disguise, this attack on their perceived superiority challenges their sense of control. Ignites their fury and the attack must be repelled accordingly watch out for the following:
    1. Being smeared in bad mouth to third parties for your audacious criticism of the angel with the dirty face after all they have done and just because you are jealous of what I do and all I'm trying to do is help people and this is how I’m treated.
    2. Directing lieutenants and members of the coterie to attack transgressor. This is especially evident in an online environment where people will jump in on the accused intent and long blows on behalf of the mid-range narcissist after all he or she prefers others to be doing the dirty work.
    3. Invalidating the view of the transgressor and doing so without reference to any substantive point but saying they're wrong because they are wrong almost like a child responding.
    4. Going on the attack directly against the perceived transgressor.
    5. Acting hurt and crestfallen.
    6. Rolling out pity plays.
    7. Accusing the transgressor through projection most notably labeling them as a narcissist.
    8. Isolating the perceived transgressor through familial or social ostracization, removal from social media, removal from committees or employment.
    Middle Mid Range Narcissist : Angel With A Dirty Face (14 min)
    The Mid Middle Range Narcissist (includes Types A and B) presents as kind and empathic, much of the time, however they are actually an angel with a dirty face. How can you determine which individual is the narcissist and distinguish them from an empath or normal person? As always, HG Tudor provides you with the answers.

    Consult: https://narcsite.com/private-audio-co...
    Narc Detector: https://narcsite.com/narc-detector-2/
    Empath Detector: https://narcsite.com/empath-detector/
    Knowledge Vault: https://gumroad.com/tudorhg
    More information: https://narcsite.com
    Email: narcissist1909@gmail.com
    House of Tudor: https://narcsite.com/the-house-of-tudor/

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    Default Re: 20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

    Excellent post Runningdeer!

    It looks like you were describing in more detail what I pointed at in my post just above!
    We were typing our posts at the very same moment.

    While typing my post, I was exactly thinking of the 8 points you mentioned.

    I agree, it IS an excellent way to "see" the mud on that "angel's" face!

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    Default Re: 20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

    Does that mean that Mr. Tudor is another "Sam Vaknin"?

    From his website: "Mr. Tudor writes from his own perspective as a narcissist psychopath "

    Maybe PN's talking about PN is the best re-source one can have?

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    Default Re: 20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

    Quote Posted by Johan (Keyholder) (here)
    Does that mean that Mr. Tudor is another "Sam Vaknin"?
    I'd say, "Yes."
    Quote Posted by Johan (Keyholder) (here)
    Excellent post Runningdeer!
    Thanks, Johan.
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    Holy Moly, this is powerful, powerful stuff. I have just read post and will watch the video later, thank you so much Paula. I had to come to a rather painful decision to simply stop interaction with my sister because of my recognized vulnerability to listening to my "older sister" dynamics and her intense narcissistic manipulations over the years and realizing how incredibly destructive it was to have interactions and manipulations by her. She was my big narcissist denial. Just didn't want to see it until I just could not take any more.

    I just ordered this book, Pam.

    “Exorcism: Purging the Narcissist From Heart and Soul”


    Summary:
    269 ratings - 4.5
    The narcissist may be physically gone but his or her influence remains and it hurts. Whether you have escaped the narcissist or you have been cruelly discarded, the period thereafter is difficult, worrying and painful.
    • Why can't you move on?
    • Why do you keep thinking about them?
    • How can we exert such a hold over you for months afterwards?
    • Why can't you get him or her out of your mind?
    • Why do you see them everywhere you look?
    • Why does it feel like he or she is still buried deep in your heart?
    • What can you do to get rid of this feeling?
    This is the answer. Through the narcissist's perspective you will understand why you have been infected, why it is so effective and how you can successfully exorcise the narcissist from your heart and soul.
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    Default Re: 20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

    For those interested, here is a good website, not so well known.

    https://voicelessness.com/

    This is a psychologist that has been a PN-victim himself.

    Personally it is my conviction that any psychotherapist/psychologist saying that they "specialize" in a particular domain, should have been exposed to "whatever" is present in that domain. And when you see that some list a dozen (or more) fields of specialty, that alone should be enough to shun them. Studying a "specialty" is never enough!

    Grossman is one of the few psychologists I would trust on this.

    His message board is excellent too (but not possible to become a member, for years now.

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    Default Re: 20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

    Quote Posted by Johan (Keyholder) (here)
    For those interested, here is a good website, not so well known.

    https://voicelessness.com/

    This is a psychologist that has been a PN-victim himself.

    Personally it is my conviction that any psychotherapist/psychologist saying that they "specialize" in a particular domain, should have been exposed to "whatever" is present in that domain. And when you see that some list a dozen (or more) fields of specialty, that alone should be enough to shun them. Studying a "specialty" is never enough!

    Grossman is one of the few psychologists I would trust on this.

    His message board is excellent too (but not possible to become a member, for years now.

    Thanks for the resource, Johan. I'm not familiar with Dr. Richard Grossman. This is his YouTube channel. It goes back 14 years, but he’s no longer active on it. The most recent one was 3 years ago.

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