How ‘Love’ and ‘Oneness’ Teachings Are Used to Disempower people.

Rareheart · 11-10-2008, 11:45 AM

The title of this thread immediately drew a negative 'reaction' from me.
The idea that Love could or would be used as a tool to "disempower" people. It just sounds counter-intuitive.
After reading the thread a few times, I realized that, in effect, the statement is true to some degree...even by my own experience.

I was not taught to 'love'...I didn't learn how to love from any guru or priest. My method of loving is inherent or seemingly instinctual. Though, as pointed out in this thread, my method of loving was flawed, without my knowledge.
I've been married twice, neither marriage worked out, due to the flaws in my "loving nature". I'd been the sort who (unknowingly) put all of my own wants and needs "on the back burner"...so to speak (and quote). I held most high those wishes of my loved ones, while ignoring my own wants and needs...and, as predicted, I ended up in conflict with myself.

I've been in "loving" relationships for most of my life, and due to my methods, never learned anything about who I am. I literally lived for my mate, and became what she wanted, forsaking my own self.

I'm single now, and have been for about 4 years...for the first time since I was 17...I'm 43 now. I have no desire to start a new relationship with anyone else, instead, I've begun to Love myself. I can't even begin to describe the positive changes I've undergone. To finally know who I am, after so many years, is my idea of complete bliss.

dayzero · 11-10-2008, 12:03 PM

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11-10-2008, 03:51 PM

glad you went through that positive change rareheart. Its always important to think first on yourself then to give whatever you want to give to others. For me that change happened 8 years ago, when i was 21.

Gnosis5 · 11-12-2008, 04:53 PM

Good of you to take some time to know yourself and love yourself. After 20 years of marriage I could not even tell you what my favorite color was, lol. Enjoy yourself, you are the most wonderful person you will ever know.

love,
Gnosis

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Originally Posted by Rareheart

The title of this thread immediately drew a negative 'reaction' from me.
The idea that Love could or would be used as a tool to "disempower" people. It just sounds counter-intuitive.
After reading the thread a few times, I realized that, in effect, the statement is true to some degree...even by my own experience.

I was not taught to 'love'...I didn't learn how to love from any guru or priest. My method of loving is inherent or seemingly instinctual. Though, as pointed out in this thread, my method of loving was flawed, without my knowledge.
I've been married twice, neither marriage worked out, due to the flaws in my "loving nature". I'd been the sort who (unknowingly) put all of my own wants and needs "on the back burner"...so to speak (and quote). I held most high those wishes of my loved ones, while ignoring my own wants and needs...and, as predicted, I ended up in conflict with myself.

I've been in "loving" relationships for most of my life, and due to my methods, never learned anything about who I am. I literally lived for my mate, and became what she wanted, forsaking my own self.

I'm single now, and have been for about 4 years...for the first time since I was 17...I'm 43 now. I have no desire to start a new relationship with anyone else, instead, I've begun to Love myself. I can't even begin to describe the positive changes I've undergone. To finally know who I am, after so many years, is my idea of complete bliss.

11-10-2008, 11:45 AM	#1
Rareheart Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: SE Coast, US Posts: 195	Re: How ‘Love’ and ‘Oneness’ Teachings Are Used to Disempower people. The title of this thread immediately drew a negative 'reaction' from me. The idea that Love could or would be used as a tool to "disempower" people. It just sounds counter-intuitive. After reading the thread a few times, I realized that, in effect, the statement is true to some degree...even by my own experience. I was not taught to 'love'...I didn't learn how to love from any guru or priest. My method of loving is inherent or seemingly instinctual. Though, as pointed out in this thread, my method of loving was flawed, without my knowledge. I've been married twice, neither marriage worked out, due to the flaws in my "loving nature". I'd been the sort who (unknowingly) put all of my own wants and needs "on the back burner"...so to speak (and quote). I held most high those wishes of my loved ones, while ignoring my own wants and needs...and, as predicted, I ended up in conflict with myself. I've been in "loving" relationships for most of my life, and due to my methods, never learned anything about who I am. I literally lived for my mate, and became what she wanted, forsaking my own self. I'm single now, and have been for about 4 years...for the first time since I was 17...I'm 43 now. I have no desire to start a new relationship with anyone else, instead, I've begun to Love myself. I can't even begin to describe the positive changes I've undergone. To finally know who I am, after so many years, is my idea of complete bliss.

11-10-2008, 12:03 PM	#2
dayzero Avalon Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Southern England Posts: 458	Re: How ‘Love’ and ‘Oneness’ Teachings Are Used to Disempower people. > Last edited by dayzero; 11-26-2008 at 11:17 AM. Reason: bad feeling

11-10-2008, 03:51 PM	#3
Deoxyan Guest Posts: n/a	Re: How ‘Love’ and ‘Oneness’ Teachings Are Used to Disempower people. glad you went through that positive change rareheart. Its always important to think first on yourself then to give whatever you want to give to others. For me that change happened 8 years ago, when i was 21.