Do Us All A Favour

[Lord Sidious]

Hello fellow members.
I have seen in the short time I have been here, too many valuable members leave and/or become unwelcome, usually through disputes with other members.
I myself have been in the middle of some of it, so I don't come to you to preach at you as if I were as innocent as the lamb.
The thing that concerns me and I would bet a lot of you too is that even those who become unwelcome have input that is valuable and when they leave, that is lost to us.
Please, do us all a favour, if you have a falling out with another member, a disagreement or whatever, don't go off the deep end and commit internet seppeku, either take it to pm and sort it out respectfully, take a break, report the post or even step away and count to five zillion or something, just DON'T blow yourselves up.
And you better take notice, or I will send my apprentice, Lord Vader around.
He isn't nice, you know.

[Teakai]

Posted by Lord Sidious (here)
or even step away and count to five zillion or something, .

love it!!

(being easily amused is such a blessing)

[jorr lundstrom]

Good advice.

[Sumo Sun]

Agree - If we can´t get along now, how could it be possible in the future. Let people speak their minds, listen to the message and let it ground inside you - then reply. At least we can give ourselves the chance to view a higher, deeper, different meaning of a new vision by digesting it properly.

[Chicodoodoo]

Posted by Lord Sidious (here)
The thing that concerns me and I would bet a lot of you too is that even those who become unwelcome have input that is valuable and when they leave, that is lost to us.

I agree, and this has been of great concern to me as well. I would very much like to see policy-challenged members be put on probation from posting rather than be forcibly unsubscribed, and still be available via private messaging to those that wish to remain in contact. I find dissent to be extremely valuable, and censorship to be extremely damaging.

[modwiz]

Posted by Lord Sidious (here)
Hello fellow members.
I have seen in the short time I have been here, too many valuable members leave and/or become unwelcome, usually through disputes with other members.
I myself have been in the middle of some of it, so I don't come to you to preach at you as if I were as innocent as the lamb.
The thing that concerns me and I would bet a lot of you too is that even those who become unwelcome have input that is valuable and when they leave, that is lost to us.
Please, do us all a favour, if you have a falling out with another member, a disagreement or whatever, don't go off the deep end and commit internet seppeku, either take it to pm and sort it out respectfully, take a break, report the post or even step away and count to five zillion or something, just DON'T blow yourselves up.
And you better take notice, or I will send my apprentice, Lord Vader around.
He isn't nice, you know.

I have a weakness for men in hoods.

[solutions]

I'd add there are tons of free games out there to waste time... They might have a purpose after all... Walking in nature is the best though.

But I have to agree that for someone that is new to all this or that the awakening process has been done too quickly... Ego tend to step in and impose his martial law to keep itself from falling apart. Best thing to do is not to reply with ego too but that's an other story for some...

Maybe add a arena for them to battle it out with pokemons?

[Lord Sidious]

Posted by modwiz (here)

Posted by Lord Sidious (here)
Hello fellow members.
I have seen in the short time I have been here, too many valuable members leave and/or become unwelcome, usually through disputes with other members.
I myself have been in the middle of some of it, so I don't come to you to preach at you as if I were as innocent as the lamb.
The thing that concerns me and I would bet a lot of you too is that even those who become unwelcome have input that is valuable and when they leave, that is lost to us.
Please, do us all a favour, if you have a falling out with another member, a disagreement or whatever, don't go off the deep end and commit internet seppeku, either take it to pm and sort it out respectfully, take a break, report the post or even step away and count to five zillion or something, just DON'T blow yourselves up.
And you better take notice, or I will send my apprentice, Lord Vader around.
He isn't nice, you know.

I have a weakness for men in hoods.

Listen here my jedi imposter friend, I will let Lord Vader know about your fetish.
I doubt that he would be sympathetic, but he might let you work in his hood factory or something.

[9eagle9]

The central and possibly overlooked theme recently seems to be "we haven't been very good stewards of the earth" ....or each other. And listening to some of the vitriol hurled back and forth rather affirms to some of us and 'those' who may be watching is .....that bit of information is still being overlooked. We didn't take very good care of each other. Even now that we know that (and it wasn't news to some people) we still aren't taking very good care of each other and in spite of that reaffirmation it seems that we will continue to not take care of each other. Because one's opinion is more important and sacred than being better stewards...still. I am always amused by those who are ready to mount up on a crusade to save the earth and mankind, and their first act of salvation is to bitchslap everyone who is perceived to stand in their way. Or rush to rally round the flag of Fawlty-Lojik (otherwise known as a personal opinion).

And what I find brow raising is all the **** slinging is typically based on the fact that someone disagreed with someone else. If we can't learn to be graceful when someone disagrees with us what will be do when something far meatier and with a lot more teeth comes our way? If one's agreement is so important to us maybe its better we stay away from those who don't agree with us. Instead I see the opposite, people who are in vehement disagreement going out of each others way to to climb up each others backside.

When one posts their opinion in public, someone is bound to disagree with it. Its not personal, its a disagreement. If someone is using Fawlty-Lojik, someone is bound to notice it. Especially if one is posting in a public forum observed by thousands who may not be employing Fawlty-Lojik.

I'd have to say a disagreement is far far better than publicly being into a corner with their own logic.

[9eagle9]

I have a weakness for men in hoods.

I do too!

I pass on the heavy mouth breathing though...

[Celine]

We are family.

Sometimes our hearts passions spill out...

my heart is broken for avalon...

[Taurean]

Like I said, Charles must be well pleased with Plan B.

[galactica]

it's just opinions ...

why the emotional wave ... reactions ...
(you can see the damaging effects in people's etheric bodies)

we could listen and respond, respectfully, clearly and warmly ...

the cold trajectory of intellect and superiority takes us away from spirit ...

in my eyes, we are family

[bluestflame]

words can't be taken back

[9eagle9]

Because people tie up their self identity with their opinons, they perhaps have not had the opportunity to develop anything else in side them to support them. So their opinion becomes the central hallmark of who they are. When someone disagrees with their opinion they feel as its a direct slam to their identity and they view it as a flaw in character and they take defense postures when no real attack is present. All goes back to fear. We do have a great learning opportunity all of us in communal and intentional living here, right now. If we can't show respect to each other with the buffer of distance and computer monitors between us how would we do it up close and personal.

I have my own sacred cows and I keep them behind the fence because I know if I let them out and someone slaughters them it will hurt.

Then again people may feel they have nothing to lose because of the monitor buffer, and its their first opportunity to ever be brave enough to reflect who they are. No matter how hard it can be a lot of the what we percieve as the nastlies are issuing a cry for help.

Posted by galactica (here)
it's just opinions ...

why the emotional wave ... reactions ...
(you can see the damaging effects in people's etheric bodies)

we could listen and respond, respectfully, clearly and warmly ...

the cold trajectory of intellect and superiority takes us away from spirit ...

in my eyes, we are family

[9eagle9]

Posted by bluestflame (here)
words can't be taken back

No they can't but ..one can make the choice not to continue to use damaging words. That speaks more than taking the words back.

[galactica]

words can't be taken back, as bluestflame says ... words spoken or just as thoughts ... they exist, as part of the individual and collective conscious / subconscious ...they create forms ... they can also degrade your and other's etheric ... they can physically hurt when translated into etheric spikes etc
they can't be taken back but we can stop and go forward and evolve ... walk, and talk, a more sacred way

Slow up ... be, in the gap in between ... respond, from the heart's intelligence ... be warm ... be clear ...

identity / separation consciousness and self-reflection, defensiveness and protectiveness, adds to the illusions of limitations, boundaries, ...

[Poly Hedra]

Hey, long time.. I Havent been around in a while, lurking also.
The reason I loved being a member of Avalon was because people listen, are open -minded, they want to learn. I know this is still here. I really hope we can get back on track and remember why we are on this forum. Its become harder and harder to follow threads when each one turns into a personal war instead on just people wanting to learn from each other.
So much to learn, so little time.
I'm sticking around.

Lots of love to all at Avalon. x

[Icecold]

Posted by solutions (here)


I'd add there are tons of free games out there to waste time... They might have a purpose after all... Walking in nature is the best though.

But I have to agree that for someone that is new to all this or that the awakening process has been done too quickly... Ego tend to step in and impose his martial law to keep itself from falling apart. Best thing to do is not to reply with ego too but that's an other story for some...

Maybe add a arena for them to battle it out with pokemons?

I've seen this done on other forums. It works. Unfortunately everyone leaves to go watch the mayhem.

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Posted by bluestflame (here)
words can't be taken back

You're right, but they can be forgiven. Take the initiative.



If a forum is a mono thought, there will be no debate. Then it is not a forum. A forum needs not only many views but opposing views. This does not prevent any member from participating.

Find a thread you like and post there. There are many topics. Nobody forces a member to post on any particular thread. There are many non confrontational threads. I started one. There are many others. If members wish to engage in a thread that is debating opposing views, well expect some fireworks.

Even Lord Sidious started a Holocaust thread knowing full well what that meant. Right my lord?

Ever seen a hot debate on a book, music or film thread? It doesn't happen very often.

Someone start a pro-abortion thread and see what happens.

Start an anti-gay thread and see what happens.

Topics set the tone for what will likely happen on any thread.

Don't paint the whole forum black or white because of a particular thread.

The Charles material has polarised the community. OK Well its confrontational material, you'd expect that. That doesn't mean everyone has to hate each other. You are not children. Forgive and forget and let the community thrive even if there is debate.

Mature adults will not have a problem. They will have the resources and understanding to cope.

[Whitehaze]

I am seeing threads like this pop up everywhere, I do believe we are starting to 'get it'!

The ones who would disagree with me, have a vision to add to my own, painting a much more colorful picture.