20 Basic Tactics Used By Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths To manipulate And Silence A Prey

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7 Predictable Ways Narcissists Will Contradict Themselves

Dr. Les Carter: I hold on the notion that says truth has a way of rising to the surface over time.

1. I’m worthy of your trust. (You keep secrets. You don’t share about yourself. You talk about others behind their back. You don’t maintain confidentiality.)
2. I’m an appealing person. People really admire me. (Superficiality. They know how to work an audience.)
3. You’d be a better person if you took my advice. (Criticism. Super-imposing. Implication is control.)
4. I’ve overcome lots of obstacles. (Masters of blame shifting. They don’t want anyone to know they hurt. They declare themselves healed.)
5. I don’t really have anger issues. (Criticism is an easy give away for a person that’s sitting on a lot of anger. In real time, they can be agitated and irritable and rage. And turn around and say they don’t have anger issues. It’s just frustrations. It’s alway someone else fault that caused it.)
6. I’ve done so many nice things for you. - (Score boarders. I’m an entitled person. I’ve earned it.)
7. I have quite a bit of depth. - (Portrays themselves as insightful, deep thinker, or has great awareness and insight. It’s just Intellectualizations that don’t filter down to the real heart level. It doesn’t translate into character development.)

Their predictable contradictions imply or reveal:

• An absence of insight
• Master of posturing
• Inclined to suppress anger
• Master of self promotions
• Internal character development is not strong
• Skilled at compartmentalization

7 Predictable Ways Narcissists Will Contradict Themselves (13:46 min)

• Surviving Narcissism

Operating with low honesty and self-awareness, narcissists think they can fool you into believing they are something they are not. Dr. Les Carter points out 7 of the most common ways they will contradict themselves in that effort. Once you see their tactics, you can become poised to adjust wisely.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

• full summary and links

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=KlyRGztyuQY

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Predatory Narcissists (13 min)

Dr. Les Carter :”Recognize when you're with a predatory narcissist you indeed are prey. Your uniqueness is a nuisance. Your distinctives (characteristics) get in their way. You have value only in proportion to your immediate utility toward them. You will occupy the subordinate position as you engage with them. Your protest to them only prove that you need to be indoctrinated even more so. Your worth is a commodity that a narcissist thinks they can give or remove based on how well you're living up to that. Respect is a one-way street only. And if you try to break away you will be punished.

A predatory narcissists views and indicators:

• Individuals are objects to collect
• They seek dominance and ownership
• Sees honesty as a psychological toy
• They make frequent use of ’bread crumbing’, i.e. friendly manipulation
• They give off an air of confidence but it’s found at others’ expense.
• They don’t seek relationships. They seek your loyalty and conformity.
• Very thin-skinned when you are different
• They emphasize duty and obligation
• Power and authority is their heroin
• They use shame and guilt to keep you in line
• They portray the attitude: “I’m worthy. You’re not worthy.”
• They make a lot of requests that become demands
• Anger very readily follows when they don’t get what they want. Anger is in the form of aggression, passive aggression, resentment, holds grudges
• Over time friendliness gives way to cold, calloused demands

Narcissists approach relationships as predators. They wonder: “Who out there can I prey upon as I seek to meet my needs?“ As a result, they are inclined to manipulate and use people as they pursue their entitled cravings. Dr. Les Carter offers ways to identify this mindset so you can take proper precautions to stay out of their clutches.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

• DrLesCarter.com
• YouTube channel
• Bookstore
• Full summary and links

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=6_nQ7BoR_34

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What Dr. Ramani thinks about your comments about "truth tellers"
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Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=9Fjjf6fDVJ4

(That first video about truth tellers really hit home for me, and apparently a lot of other viewers as well, as it got a lot of comments.

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https://youtube.com/watch?v=XRuWd7cpx5Y

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A Narcissist's Top 10 Gaslighting Comments

• July 7, 2022
• SurvivingNarcissism.tv
• Surviving Narcissism YouTube

A goal of the narcissist is to keep you feeling confused about how you feel, what you think, or how you interpret circumstances. In other words, they have an ongoing penchant toward gaslighting. Dr. Les Carter identifies ten of their most common gaslighting comments, and as you develop an acute awareness of their schemes, you can stay unhooked from their manipulations.

To read the article version of this topic, please go to - uSrvivingNarcissism.tv. (also added below)

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=1N8UXyuhsDA

A Narcissist’s Top 10 Gaslighting Comments

The pattern of narcissism is defined by the need to control you, to maintain an edge of superiority, to manipulate and exploit, and to minimize your emotions and perceptions. Being unnaturally self-absorbed, narcissists constantly look for ways to maintain an angle over you.

One of their favorite tactics is gaslighting, a proactive attempt to create confusion within you and to interpret events for the specific purpose of maximizing the narcissist’s psychological dominance. The goal of the gaslighting narcissist is to wear down your resolve, to diminish your confidence in your perceptions, and to establish themselves as the ultimate arbitrator of correctness.

Your independent thinking threatens a narcissist, so if they can succeed in making you look or feel foolish, or if they can prompt you to doubt your version of events, they presumably win. So, with that in mind, let’s identify ten of the most common gaslighting comments you will hear from a narcissist. Being aware of their psychological tricks, you will be less susceptible to collapsing under their controlling efforts.

Their top ten:

1. “I’m just trying to help.” Very commonly, narcissists will become critical, bossy, intrusive, and invalidating. When you call them out, they can feign innocence by insisting that their directives mean to be for good. If you deem their “helpfulness” unnecessary, that implies you are unappreciative.
   
   
2. “Who told you that?” When you offer your separate perspective to the narcissist, there is a very low likelihood that a fair-minded exchange will ensue. Instead, the narcissist will look for someone to scapegoat. You clearly have been misinformed, so it is essential (to the narcissist) to cast dispersions upon your sources of information.
   
   
3. “I’m sorry if I offended you.” (No, they are not.) This is the classic non-apology apology. When a problem has occurred, they put the focus onto your presumed fragility. The implied message is that you are thin-skinned and have poor interpretation skills. They may as well say, “It’s too bad you can’t handle the truth, as defined by me.”
   
   
4. (Huff…sigh). Without words, the narcissist can heave hot air, as if to say: “I don’t even know what to say right now…you are so off base.” When you point out their rudeness, they can deny the problem, reminding you they have actually said nothing.
   
   
5. “No one does more for you than me.” At times narcissists will indeed perform favors or act cooperatively, but later you learn they are collecting chips. Then, if you express frustration, they will cash in those chips with the insinuation that you are in their debt or that you are an ingrate. Of course, the frustration is not addressed, and that is the narcissist’s goal.
   
   
6. “You’re the one who has issues.” Let’s suppose the narcissist is completely inappropriate and you draw attention to it. While that person may not deny the wrongdoing directly, they may shift gears by pointing out when you have been in the wrong. Or they may insinuate that if they erred, you caused it. Then they take delight as you start defending yourself. (They are off the hook at that point.)
   
   
7. “You are so argumentative.” (or controlling, or stubborn, or defensive, etc.) To keep themselves off the hot seat, narcissists will project onto you what they refuse to adjust within themselves. They reason that if they accuse first, your counter-arguments will fall flat.
   
   
8. “I was really stressed out.” Sometimes narcissists cannot deny their errors, so they will fall back onto the vague complaint that stress made them act ineffectively. Never mind that everyone has some measure of stress…this comment implies that you do not have the right to hold them accountable.
   
   
9. “You did well, but…” Sometimes your excellence cannot be denied, but even then, narcissists cannot let you have the positive spotlight. They can minimize you by offering a compliment with a caveat. For instance: “You did well, but you had lots of help along the way,” or “You did well, but the task wasn’t that complicated.”
   
   
10. “Let’s get together soon when we have more time to talk.” Narcissists can be aware that some situations deserve a full discussion so clear minds can prevail. But they also know that if they enter those discussions, they may have to make concessions. So, they pretend they are willing to hear you out, but later it’s obvious they never intended to have the conversation. This comment is a prelude to you being ghosted.

But wait, there’s more

These are just ten of the most common gaslighting comments you’ll hear from a narcissist…the number of comments is limited only by the narcissist’s limits for speaking in half-truths, disguised accusations, and veiled insults. Make no mistake, their gaslighting is a form of abuse. It is a projection of their own unfinished psychological tension onto you. It illustrates how they utterly despise taking responsibility for their flaws. And it is a covert way of gaining mind control over you.

Your challenge is to become keenly aware of the narcissist’s tactics. And as you do, you can choose instead to consult your own inner voice. The narcissist does not want you to trust yourself, yet as you know yourself to be a person of integrity, committed to growth, self-trust is entirely appropriate.

Don’t allow the narcissist to slyly bully you into subordination. When possible, remove that person from your inner circle of advisors, then act upon your good intuitions.

~Les Carter, Ph.D.

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The Biggest Lie A Narcissist Uses To Keep You Down (12 min)

• July 11, 2022
• SurvivingNarcissism.tv
• Surviving Narcissism YouTube

"I want to begin today with a reminder that narcissists obviously have a vested interest in trying to be in control over you. They're very selfish. They’re very entitled. They have a penchant towards manipulation but all of that is built upon a fear-based insecurity. Deep down they don't have a whole lot of inner strength to draw upon so they draw their strength from what they consider to be a comparative standing to you. If they can somehow show themselves to be superior and they show that you’re inferior, then somehow that makes them feel like they’re winning…”

“One of the the things that we that we know that by observing narcissists is that one of their favorite games is to poke at you and set up scenarios where you indeed will give them an ugly response and then they turn right around and say, “See there's the proof that I need. You are a defective person,” and they go into the character assassination."

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=xlDjK0iCdYI

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”One of the things the narcissist takes great delight in is they take delight in you being way off the rails emotionally. They absolutely love it when you have all sorts of strain and stress emotionally that apparently you're not able to to manage well because that allows them to say see you're the crazy one in this equation and so when we talk about you having an emotional sobriety.”

"...When the narcissist remains intent on keeping you dysregulated, your response can be, “I will only allow people who share my commitment to sobriety to enter into my inner circle.”

Your Emotional Sobriety As You Respond To A Narcissist

• July 12, 2022
• Surviving Narcissism

It's only natural for you to feel a wide range of emotions as you respond to a narcissist. But, as Dr. Les Carter explains, narcissists are not safe people and when your emotions are strong, they will use it against you. Your task is to know how and when to practice emotional sobriety so your emotions will not play into a narcissist's manipulations.

To read the article version of this topic. (also added below)

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=XXwBNq1Ojwk

Your Emotional Sobriety as You Respond to a Narcissist

In my 40+ years as a therapist, people often told me stories that would fall into the “Complicated” category. As we would sift through problems created by difficult people, there would be no one-size-fits-all approach to a case. Therapy is a creative process requiring both inquisitiveness and steadiness. Peeling away the layers to the proverbial onion can be painful, soothing, perplexing, and calming.

As you might imagine, the person in front of me would often feel emotionally twisted, so it became my task to maintain objectivity. I never panicked, and in my mind, I would often think, “Ok, this is a convoluted situation, but I know we will figure it out. We’re just not there yet.” In the midst of potential emotional volatility, I would model emotional sobriety.

Eventually, I would explain to my patients that when they are challenged with responding wisely to a narcissist’s manipulations, that same emotional sobriety is required. Narcissists take delight when you feel off-kilter emotionally, using it as an opportunity to gain an upper hand. It is a classic case of them kicking a person who is down. Unfortunately, they are quite adept at that tactic.

When you choose to employ emotional sobriety, you determine to keep your emotions in check. It is not necessarily wrong that you feel as you do, yet you remind yourself that these are not safe people who will respond fairly. Instead, narcissists will use your emotionally delicate moments to shame you. To them, your tears or your anger “validate” you as weak. They will seize upon your emotions (especially your hurt) as an opportunity to sling their own emotional rubbish your way. Then they blame you for creating the bad vibes. They are forever the victim, so when you display tension, they will blame you for making their lives miserable.

Like I say, they are not safe. They look for any potential evidence that will support the notion that you are the crazy person in the equation.

So, exactly what is required for you to employ emotional sobriety?

Foremost, you will have a strong understanding of relationship boundaries. This begins with the understanding that you are responsible for yourself, just as the other person is in reverse.

You will remind yourself that you are not responsible for making the narcissist use logic, and you will not require their compassion. Also, you will not attempt to force harmony, agreement, or concurrence, as desirable as those traits are. You will not seek the narcissist’s approval, nor will you make it your task to cause the narcissist to modulate emotions like anger and contempt. That is not your job.

You will, however, develop answers to the question: “What does it mean for me to become a healthy me?” And you will rehearse in your mind how to focus on your defining features in trying moments. You will accept your feelings, opinions, and preferences as legitimate. When the narcissist tells you how off-beat you are, you will allow that interpretation. It is, after all, what that person thinks. In the meantime, you will remind yourself that you do not take your lifestyle cues from one who is defined by the need to control you, to demean, and to act upon all sorts of entitled initiatives.

Emotional sobriety would require you to drop your wishful thinking as illustrated by the words, “I just wish…”. Instead, you would accept as fact that you will be misinterpreted, invalidated, disrespected, held in low regard, and mocked. You will be accused of being phony, and you will be told you are the source of their unhappiness.

As an emotionally sober person you will drop the pipe dream of hearing the narcissist say words like:

“I have lots of soul searching to do.”

“You make mistakes, but so do I.”

“When we differ, let’s use it as an opportunity to learn and grow.”

In your emotional sobriety, you will make room for ambiguity. The only thing consistent about narcissists is their inconsistency.

As an emotionally sober person, you will focus on finding the confidence to believe that you are indeed a decent person with reasonable beliefs and priorities. And when the narcissist disagrees, you will remember that your confidence can remain intact, keeping in mind that you never appointed the narcissist as the Keeper Of The Facts About You. With humility, you will be mindful of your flaws and imperfections, and you will take comfort in knowing that you are a work in progress.

Narcissists represent the opposite of emotional sobriety. They are addicts who feel a never-ending need for power, superiority, admiration, and your subordination. Narcissists are the ones who have childishly poor regulation over their emotions. They are the ones who cannot cope with life’s complexities. That is why they work so hard at forcing you into their paradigm.

As an emotionally sober person who accepts your own full range of emotions, you can press forward knowing you can cope, you trust yourself, and you can lean into your inherent dignity.

And when the narcissist remains intent on keeping you dysregulated, your response can be, “I will only allow people who share my commitment to sobriety to enter into my inner circle.”

~Les Carter, Ph.D.

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7 Domination Games Narcissists Will Play

“.. interconnected with one another in the midst of our differences and we can learn to blend and harmonize and actually benefit because of the differences we bring to each other.

Narcissists don't think that way. At the base narcissists are very self-absorbed. They’re very enamored with themselves.Which then allows them to presume that they can and should be in control because they feel very entitled and they must be in the superior position.

So this sets them up to try to figure out how they can have domination over the people that are in their closest circle. But underneath all of this there's more going on than meets the eye. Narcissists are deeply insecure….”

7 Domination Games Narcissists Play:

1. @ 3:23 - My Opinion Only: they begin with an authoritarian attitude.
2. @ 4:22 - Shut Up: messages of invalidation.
3. @ 5:18 - You’ll Be Sorry: punishment and threats.
4. @ 6:39 - The Whole World Will Know: humiliation.
5. @ 7:43 - I’m Beholden to No One: refuse to be accountable.
6. @ 8:46 - I’ve Got Nothing For You: passive aggressive patterns.
7. @ 9:43 - I’ve Got People: creating group think, you become the outlier, the outsider.

Click for links & more info.

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=iQolkk0Toxw

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7 Domination Games Narcissists Will Play

“.. interconnected with one another in the midst of our differences and we can learn to blend and harmonize and actually benefit because of the differences we bring to each other.

Narcissists don't think that way. At the base narcissists are very self-absorbed. They’re very enamored with themselves.Which then allows them to presume that they can and should be in control because they feel very entitled and they must be in the superior position.

So this sets them up to try to figure out how they can have domination over the people that are in their closest circle. But underneath all of this there's more going on than meets the eye. Narcissists are deeply insecure….”

7 Domination Games Narcissists Play:

1. @ 3:23 - My Opinion Only: they begin with an authoritarian attitude.
2. @ 4:22 - Shut Up: messages of invalidation.
3. @ 5:18 - You’ll Be Sorry: punishment and threats.
4. @ 6:39 - The Whole World Will Know: humiliation.
5. @ 7:43 - I’m Beholden to No One: refuse to be accountable.
6. @ 8:46 - I’ve Got Nothing For You: passive aggressive patterns.
7. @ 9:43 - I’ve Got People: creating group think, you become the outlier, the outsider.

Click for links & more info.

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=iQolkk0Toxw

On point - as someone who has been on the receiving end of abusive malicious narcissism, this m.o. is a page from my own personal history with some very "ugly" people. LIes, gaslighting and gathering their army of (like minded) supporters is step 1 in their takedown process.

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On point - as someone who has been on the receiving end of abusive malicious narcissism, this m.o. is a page from my own personal history with some very "ugly" people. LIes, gaslighting and gathering their army of (like minded) supporters is step 1 in their takedown process.

Humanity makes a giant leap in consciousness once these beings see their dysfunction and acknowledge their addiction to control and the destruction they propagate.

Oops,… shakes off the Pollyanna wishful thinking and continues…

...the radar is finely tuned once you’ve lived in the craziness bubble of the narcissist. Alarm bells go off. The validation and knowledge from people like Dr. Les Carter, Doctor Ramani, Prof. Sam Vaknin and HG Tudor bring clarity to what goes on for the narcissist and their flying monkeys.

What are flying monkeys in narcissism?

Flying monkeys are people who actively participate in a narcissist's smear campaign. The goal of the campaign is to destroy the target's reputation. Flying monkeys carry out much of the narcissist's dirty work, allowing the narc to keep their hands clean.

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How Narcissists Set You Up For "Reactive Abuse” (11 min)

Summary: “Because of their own poor coping skills, narcissists hope to deflect attention away from their dysfunctions by bringing out the worst in you. Dr. Les Carter explains the phenomenon called "reactive abuse,” which features you retaliating to a narcissist's inappropriateness with your counter-version of the same. As you see their twisted game for what it is, you can move into a much healthier direction.”

• July 25, 2022
• Surviving Narcissism

• Begins @38 seconds
• @5:47 - “You have been set up for reactive abuse. Understand key thoughts or ideas about what you’re dealing with."
• @ 8:45 - "Your challenge is whenever the narcissist is trying to set you up for what we refer to as retaliation which is referred to as reactive abuse….”

• Bottom line @11:30 - “You can be committed to your own emotional and mental healthiness. And that requires you to disassociate from very unhealthy people and associate with people that same commitment with you.”

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=JbY2WV_haC8

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A psychic's original perspective on narcissism from a younger Gigi Young
Narcissism
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"What is going on with narcissism on a soul level? What part of the soul journey is happening when a person becomes narcissistic.

Narcissism is not simply formed from childhood trauma, it is deeper than that. This is why some children can go through similar traumatic experiences yet turn out completely different. Trauma simply awakens a soul already karmically drawn to experiencing a narcissistic life.

The soul itself is in a cycle of survivalism which is reflected in the personality of the Narcissist."

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=o7sPLscJ9TA

5 Signs Your Spiritual Teacher May Be a Narcissist.
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"5 Signs Your Spiritual Teacher May Be a Narcissist:

1) They are more "special" than you. They have more of a connection to higher abilities or god.

2) They put others teachers down. No one is as good as them. They are threatened easily by others.

3) They seek pity or are a martyr.

4) Weirdly protective inner circle.

5) They teach mainly from an intellect as opposed to the heart or spirit. They are cur off from their emotional body.

I was a little concerned with the number of people who wrote off the possibility that a person they consider to be "spiritual" could be an abusive narcissist. "How can my husband be a narcissist when he watches Bashar and quotes Tolle?"

Let me be clear here.

The spiritual world is a perfect place for a narcissist. There are even spiritual teachers who teach from a place of needing adoration and energetic supply as opposed to genuinely wanting to uplift others. Individuals can logically understand universal law, recite it, and never truly integrate it - Or live it. Metaphysical information can be spoken from the intellect, or pure mind, with no true connection to the heart, higher self, or spirit.

It is more than OK to detach from anyone who you feel may be damaging for as long as you need to feel balanced. Anyone genuinely concerned about your well being will let that happen

6) Overtly sexual- sexual energy is magnetic and people with NPD will use it as an easy way to gain attention and energy. "

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=VCqaOwDUuCo

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What energizes the narcissist the most?

“Narcissists are energized when when you give them affirmation and admiration. They’re energized when you give deference to them and you conform to who they are. They’re also energized when you're intimidated by them…”

“Narcissist are very ego driven in the way that they engage with you. To say that they're ego driven is a gross understatement. They operate on this the notion that says, “I’m substantial, you're not.” One of the easiest ways to determine the extent of their egotism is to watch how critical they are toward you.”

“Don’t keep their game going. They’re highly competitive. When you play the game they won't quit until they’ve convinced themselves that they're superior and you're inferior.”

“Narcissists are very needy people. So when they come at you with all their conceit and their arrogance, they're implying “I've got to have you to tell me that I'm okay.”

An Unexpectedly Effective Way To Respond To A Narcissist's Criticisms

• July 30, 2022
• Surviving Narcissism

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=SYIoBRcpOQs

[onawah]

Limerence and narcissistic relationships
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Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=OVKh0JnW5K8

( I had not heard of limerance before, but this perfectly describes a narcissist I know who doesn't fit the regular description of narcissists, and really had me puzzled
The lessons continue...sigh )

[onawah]

Highly sensitive people and narcissism
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Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=8o7kcZim-F0

What types of people attract narcissists?
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Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=4AkSWIquoaQ

[onawah]

What is "narcissistic rage"? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)
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Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=pEyKLMMj-FA

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[onawah]

EVERYTHING You Need To Know About the Narcissist [MedCircle Masterclass]
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(It's great to get an overview from an expert that so clearly connects so many dots for us!)

"Get access to dozens of live workshops with MedCircle psychologists: https://bit.ly/3yKt1aW

Discover everything you need to know on narcissism basics, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) vs self confidence vs borderline personality disorder (BPD), causes of narcissism (nature vs nurture), how to deal with a narcissist, This is your narcissism masterclass."

00:00 Why narcissism is the secondhand smoke of mental health
11:13 PART 2: Narcissistic personality disorder VS narcissism
32:50 PART 3: Are narcissists born or made?
48:57 PART 4: The 7 signs of narcissism
59:31 PART 5: How to cope with narcissistic abuse
01:15:50 PART 6: Can narcissism be treated?

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=V87G95bGTTk

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this has some new insights that I havent come across before.. the mother/child - child/mother relationship between the narcisist and the victim.

also Richard Grannon uses an interesting analogy to nanobots in this, describing the mind of the narcissist, which makes me ponder more on my idea that maybe the narcissistic brain structure is a platform for entities to enter or inhabit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hL7Qunm20u0

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=hL7Qunm20u0

[Delight]

The part I am listening to now has to do with seeing sadism (delight in the suffering of others) present in the main stream like the audience of sports like Hockey. Is this trait being encouraged (?) in video games like Mortal Combat and television programs like "Game of Thrones". The presentation is interesting as they try to tease out where these traits exist in human behavior.

Women, Pornography, and Sadism | Dr. Del Paulhus | EP 237
Jordan B Peterson
Jan 30, 2023
Dr Jordan B Peterson and Dr. Del Paulhus delve deep into the Dark Tetrad: Machiavellianism, Narcissism, Psychopathy, and the newly added Sadism. From these four traits, researchers can quantify much of the darkness of humanity, and begin to study it in a way that yields numerical results, and the potential to make substantial predictions.

Dr. Delroy Paulhus is a personality researcher whose work in dark personality traits, via a variety of psychometric methods, has yielded measures of the Dark Tetrad. His work has also validated measures of socially desirable responding, perceived control, free will and determinism, and over-claiming. His work has been published in over 150 articles and books, and his current citation count exceeds 43,000.

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=l2og1DJvQ94

[onawah]

How to break the trauma bond with a narcissist
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Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=vIFJHH8V8go