Are You Happy?

[Ernie Nemeth]

Rick was on about the opposition of reality itself to our well being - the 80/20 split for the buttered side down scenario.

I notice this in spades, probably not a good idea to get obsessed about, I know. Every action here is opposed to the point of ridiculousness. Even when there is no one around, the universe still conspires to manifest the least desirable outcome in all things. To say it another way, my will is opposed by an unseen hand.

The only way to counter this is to be 100% here. That is to say 100% in the now. If I focus all my will, in full awareness, mitigate any possible bad outcomes, and have faith in my abilities, I will prevail. But who can do that 100% of the time? I can't.


When I use my little life as the measure, I am not happy.
When I use the knowledge I have gained while constantly trying to better myself, I am as happy as can be. Which is not much, but passable.

Since my wife's passing, I don't see the point anymore.
Luckily I have my cat Sam.

He misses her as much as I do.
We share our misery and commiserate together on the giant hole in our lives.

But I sob every night while making my dinner. And Sam often sits by the ashes on the couch and stares off into space...


Without this life I would not have known such a love - I am grateful for the experience, and happy for the memories.

[Bill Ryan]

Posted by Ernie Nemeth (here)
Since my wife's passing, I don't see the point anymore.
Luckily I have my cat Sam.

He misses her as much as I do.
We share our misery and commiserate together on the giant hole in our lives.

But I sob every night while making my dinner. And Sam often sits by the ashes on the couch and stares off into space...


Without this life I would not have known such a love - I am grateful for the experience, and happy for the memories.

Ernie, you'll meet her again. That's a surefire promise — and something maybe to be happy about and to look forward to, despite the intervening loneliness and silence.

[Squareinthecircle]

Yes. I am very ill for reasons, have had a horrible life and it taught me how to handle it all successfully. I use the advice of the stoics, 12 Step groups, God and a lot more. I surround myself with philosophy, understanding and God's love and it works for me, when it has no right to.