I know two people who, I think, would be "transbians", although I don't think anyone actually uses this word. When you change your gender, I don't think it changes what sex you are attracted to. If you were a straight man and transition, then you become a gay woman, as far as I know.Posted by Mark (Star Mariner) (here)
Transbian:
"A contraction of the phrase "transsexual lesbian". A transbian is a male-to-female transsexual who is also a lesbian"
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One of them was my female friend's second husband and it was his second marriage too. His first wife died tragically. Their one son didn't handle it well, and didn't get the therapy and guidance he needed. The son become increasing angry, arrogant, violent, and, I would gather, eventually became criminal. While this was getting worse he and my friend divorced. Years later I heard the son had died, not sure of the circumstances, but I can imagine his violent behavior was a factor. A few year later, my friend told me that her ex had transitioned. My immediate thought was "I hope he's happy! After all the tragedy he's been through, he deserves happiness." (And my second thought was to go back and revise the pronouns in my first thought.)
My friend went to meet her ex for lunch. I had to ask my friend, what did it feel like to see her ex as a woman. Her answer: "Well, they are still the same person."
I also worked with a priest in an Episcopal church. We got along very well and I learned so much from her about theology, church history, liturgy, Orthodox Christianity, Catholicism, etc. We both usually got to work early so I got to ask her questions and she enjoyed sharing her knowledge. I noticed that she had a unusually large well structured nose, and she would occasionally talk about subjects to me like "transgender saints". (Which were usually woman who had to dress up as a man for some reason or other.) There were probably other clues, but I never picked up on. Years after I saw her, I looked at her Facebook page and noticed where she studied - at a Catholic seminary. I first thought "But they don't let women in Catholic seminaries" and then "Duh" - I realized how oblivious I had been.![]()
I have to say she is a truly kind and gentle person whose weekday job is to help low income people find housing.
Is this really anything new? There haven't always been hormones and surgery and the makeup technology has vastly improved, but trans people have been around a long time. In certain tribal cultures, the trans concept has a long history. Isn't there room in our modern culture for all people to pursue a path towards happiness?Oh good Lord, what now?




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