Has anyone else been feeling a tad mor "antisocial" than "normal "?

[Conaire]

Yes Norman, I have an anti-social streak to me too. Lately I'm very comfortable with saying to my boyfriend, for example "I want to be by myself for the day ok, don't take it personally". Luckly he understands. I find it's very important to be alone, either being at home alone or going for a walk, whatever. When there is a balance between being social and having time to myself then I can really enjoy the times I am spending time with my friends or famly. Before, when I forced myself to be around people, to be out socialising more often and wasn't taking time to be alone I enjoyed it less and I was more irritable and snappy with people.

[RUSirius]

Great thread, very much anti-social, due to the "topics of conversation" that I'm around, if it werent for PA, I probably would go insane, so much good stuff to express to one and other, but very few in tune with "our" reality, glad to hear everyone is feeling the same...

[truth4me]

I feel as though I'm on a deserted Island at times. There is no one here in my area that I can relate to. Now as Fred said in an earlier reply men talk about who's in line to get drafted or around here it's NASCAR. When I was asleep I too was guilty of what I just said yet now it's meaningless. I spend time when my grandson yet even at his age ,5, the programming has started. We need to remember that we have awoken for a reason ..............time will tell.

[Daozen]

Yeah, I got the itch recently. I told people I am hibernating...

This is a big time in our history, and I don't want to waste it drinking beer and chitter chattering.

I found a happy medium by making sure that whenever I am with a friend, I am either exercising or eating. That way it's not such a waste of time...

Lots of time for parties later....

[another bob]

As much as I sympathize with hermit mode (and in fact I've spent big blocks of time as a hermit myself), I have also realized that we came to this dance to get out on the floor and dance, and not hold back as wall flowers. Our reluctance can be rationalized in all sorts of ways, but life is always calling us to go beyond ourselves and jump in with both feet. Love wants us to love, because that's how it grows and spreads. By avoiding relationships, we're actually defeating the heart's deepest desire. Of course, every situation is different, and there are times when solitude is appropriate, but the opportunity presented by this life is a rare one, and that's especially true now. If people like us withdraw, what will remain to make the kind of difference we would like to see? Who are we serving by pulling away? On the other hand, by immersing ourselves in the stream and bustle of life every now and then, we will find that we are also served. That's what unity consciousness is all about, serving and being served. If it really is "all God", then what part of God is not worthy of being engaged? I suppose what I am getting at is, we need to question our reluctance too -- is the motive selfish and fear-based, for instance? It's important to look closely.

[Flash]

May be....

Just may be....

Conspiracy forums have this impact on people...

[kcbc2010]

Love this thread! I wish I would have found PA sooner because I really feel like all of you are describing me in one way or another.

Even as a kid, I couldn't do the mindless chit-chatter. In my family, there's this odd dichotomy where some people are really loud and they seem feel they have to compensate for the rest of us who don't feel the need to talk all the time. Then when they leave, "the quiet ones" breathe a sigh of relief because we are just thankful that all of their energy is gone and we can just be quiet!

I, one of the quiet ones, am charged with raising a son who has speech problems. So, I have to talk to teach him how to make his sounds. I find it so difficult some days to do it because I have to overcome my need/desire to be quiet in order to help him. I hate how our society favors extroverts because sometimes, they are just mean,loud people who have nothing interesting to say.

[Mystique]

I really appreciate the opportunity here to recognize that I in my solitude, I am not alone.

I have caught myself wondering lately why I am so contented being by myself and dreading it when I have to go to stores or places where there are people around. I prefer not interacting much.

I am learning to relax more deeply and allowing silence to be my ally so I can feel my presence. Asking myself why, how, when, where, who or what seems to separate me from that knowing place so I am practicing just sitting with not knowing while I allow knowing to emerge.

Cultivating "now" seems endless in its depth and breadth.

[ghostrider]

yep . more and more each day. We don't belong here. we are ready to fly. being earthbound real drag, know what I mean ?? our home is out there , not here.

[Sidney]

I love this thread. This is so spot on. And actually I have been sort of antisocial my whole life. i never had anything to say to contribute to superficial chatter, it always just seems so trivial. After my awakening started though, I began to understand why. I always felt like something MUST be wrong with me, because I have never ever fit in . Not that anything is wrong with everyone else, thats shallow of me to think that, but it is the programming. And, I do believe that we do have a gift of having the abililty to fight the programming, especially after we are aware of it. It really is lonely a lot of the time. The things that are important to most people I couldn't care less about. I have tried, but my brain just won't wrap around chit-chat. Like modwiz says, most people talk for frikkin HOURS, and they don't say ANYTHING. Its maddening.
My mom and all her sisters, their daughters and their kids, OMG when they all get together, they all have to be talking at once, and even one at a time, they don't say anything worth listening to, but when they are all talking at once, OMG I have to leave the building. They have never understood it. They take insult, even though I tell them I just get over-stimulated. I truly am the black sheep. (OK, not a sheep.lol).
I have never had a huge number of friends. To this day, I would much rather spend hours with my cats, than have meaningless chatter with my neighbor.
I will say out loud here that I do have a bit of social phobia, and that is my issue, but things are not going to change any time soon.

[jagman]

I can give a date for my antisocial behavior disorder. It was December,2009. The people of Missouri were experiencing an early snow storm.
I lived in a rural area at that time. I was snowed in, I didn't leave my house for 3 weeks. The first week went bye and I kept myself busy with
little projects. By the end of the second week of isolation, I really started to embrace my journey into solace.The 3rd week, The roads were
clear but I chose to stay in my fortress of solitude..I find there is a strange comfort in being alone. If one is not careful, This kind of isolation
experiment, Could be a journey into madness.

[Mandala]

Posted by CurtisW (here)
Pretty much the only conversations I want to have are ones that explore the mystery. Those conversations make my heart jump. Those are thrilling...and those are the people I love. So, on the flipside, I find that I am also able to open on a heart level more to those people. So, I guess it's a good news bad news thing in my case.

I have to agree. I rather not have plans or obligations to spend time with those I do not resonate or feel free to discuss what's really on my mind.

[Alie]

Posted by another bob (here)
As much as I sympathize with hermit mode (and in fact I've spent big blocks of time as a hermit myself), I have also realized that we came to this dance to get out on the floor and dance, and not hold back as wall flowers. Our reluctance can be rationalized in all sorts of ways, but life is always calling us to go beyond ourselves and jump in with both feet. Love wants us to love, because that's how it grows and spreads. By avoiding relationships, we're actually defeating the heart's deepest desire. Of course, every situation is different, and there are times when solitude is appropriate, but the opportunity presented by this life is a rare one, and that's especially true now. If people like us withdraw, what will remain to make the kind of difference we would like to see? Who are we serving by pulling away? On the other hand, by immersing ourselves in the stream and bustle of life every now and then, we will find that we are also served. That's what unity consciousness is all about, serving and being served. If it really is "all God", then what part of God is not worthy of being engaged? I suppose what I am getting at is, we need to question our reluctance too -- is the motive selfish and fear-based, for instance? It's important to look closely.

My friend has recently been studying enneagrams. In a workshop they asked people to go stand in one of 3 groups which represent their motivating drive in life --- Social, Sexual, Self-Preserving

Here's the link from which I've excerpted:

".... I found that the instinctual drives appear to be not only instrumental in distinguishing the different styles of manifesting our Enneagram type behavior, but also perhaps the stronger, more unconscious, yet all-pervasive element of our personality type. Our instinctual drives motivate us in the ongoing human struggle to create and sustain relationships, to aggressively seek what we need to survive, and to defend what we have and fear losing. Clearly, the journey toward wholeness might well include the conscious exploration of these relatively untraveled, instinctual roads, and thus ultimately lead to a more balanced and integrated awareness..."

[evancruz1]

Posted by Watching from Cyprus (here)
I guess, We ARE the Watchers . . So many are talking about, no more, no more control, no more slavery, no more poisoning. I.e. Alex Jones and others ; Lets stand up together and fight the Elite to save all the humans on the planet. THAT IS TOO LATE... So many in the western world has been brain washed so severely that they cannot turn back quick enough. they are hypnotized to love money more than anything else, so what i can agree to is to fight the Elite and their rulers from above with love, which is the only weapon powerful enough to overcome their negative energies and apart from that listen to my inner guidance. I have a feeling that we will see each other soon friends ;-)
I say "Catch them when they ask to be catched" and dont force them to jump in the first place..

Ciao
Peter

You are not kidding about the programming! My own family (except for my mother thank God) are so contained in their bubble that the mere mention of something like Chemtrails invokes a response designed to make me feel crazy. I've been feeling more un-social from approx. 2 1/2 years ago...
I have a hard time around my father whom is a product of the cold war and believes the Bush family to be just swell. That says it all in a nut shell...
My wife and I find it increasingly more dificult to relate to others that are oblivious to the world around them.

But yet still I have nothing but love for them...

Jonathan

[jason4444]

My goodness dude I feel the EXACT same way. I am very open about who I am and have never had problems socializing with people. However, since I started my second semester at college in January, I just haven't had the drive to meet new people. I'd rather them come up to me than me go up to them. This is very weird for me as I am a people person and I don't find myself uncomfortable in traditionally uncomfortable situations, but now I'd rather have someone start a conversation with me than me starting the conversation with them, which is how I used to be. It's like I've lost the motivation to confront someone, but when they confront me I have no problem conversing and befriending them. I guess a better way to put it is now, I don't necessarily need other people to be content with life; I just need myself.

Posted by normam2 (here)
So for this past couple of months I have been feeling more "antisocial" than normal or what the masses consider normal. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to interact with people and instead find pleasure in your own company. After all enjoying your own company is part of the self realization process during your awakening journey. Furthemore I feel that to truly love others you most first love yourself.
I most clarify that I have always enjoy my alone time I'm the oldest in a family of seven so I have always been around someone when I used to live at home. At school I had no problems talking to people and I'm sure no one would have consider me "antisocial" if they were to approach and interact with me . This trimester will be the last of my undergraduate learning if you can even call it learning , but up to this year I felt a decrease in my desire to socialize and make new friends.
Don't get me wrong if I could go for a coffee with anyone from this fforum just to talk about the conversations brought up here I would gladly spend the whole day doing it. I guess the thing that turns me off is people's lack of interest in what truly is worth contemplating and talking about, instead of how the latest Nikes have this cool new feature or how epic last nights winning play was? Etc etc
The funny thing is that I can't just go to my apartment and hangout with my roommate the whole day , is like i have an ...itch yea it feels just like that an itch. An itch to be around others but with no interaction PREFERABLY lol. Is like I'm in my ZONE , I'm the most comfortable when this is the case So I got to thinking and I was wondering am I a first wave or a second wave according to Dolores cannon I'm currently 22 . Or is it that I'm raising my vibrations higher compare to everyone else so you could argue that it would be uncomfortable to be around lower vibrations produce my them ?? My roommate has brought up the fact of this antisocial behavior coming from me . Anyone else behaving "anti socially"?

[Dorjezigzag]

Bjork expressed it so well

as much as i definitely enjoy solitude
i wouldn't mind perhaps
spending little time with you
sometimes
sometimes

possibly maybe probably love

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZP5OA0SCMZA

[Mike]

Posted by Flash (here)
May be....

Just may be....

Conspiracy forums have this impact on people...

so true! ha! internet forums: a place for the anti-social to socialize!

i can be a bit anti-social, but none of you would know it if we met up in a real-life social situation. i enjoy being with friends and like minds and can be just as gregarious as the next drunken fool, but ONLY ON MY TERMS. meaning, i'll never go anywhere i can't leave in the drop of a dime if i feel like leaving. if i stay even a moment longer my energy just gushes out of me like a waterfall, and i can get quite ornery. in my youth this resulted in punch-ups, but now i just won't allow myself to be put in that situation.

at times , my anti-socialness has been thought of as pompousness, but this is far from true. (my opinion of myself dwindles daily, trust me) but if you've lived a certain kind of life, filled with trauma after trauma, it becomes difficult to relate to others-- which can be very frustrating. the answer, i've found, is to not even try to relate. unless, of course, you're amongst like minds. like Avalon, for example.

[normam2]

Wow you basically wrote what I have concluded in that beautifully written quotation from the study In that eventually none of this motivators are bad and aree needed in order to compare, contrast and eventually be able to unify them into a new form of society that strides for balance and acceptance. Rather that have one with surpluses and a judgemental outlook.

[normam2]

Posted by Alie (here)

Posted by another bob (here)
As much as I sympathize with hermit mode (and in fact I've spent big blocks of time as a hermit myself), I have also realized that we came to this dance to get out on the floor and dance, and not hold back as wall flowers. Our reluctance can be rationalized in all sorts of ways, but life is always calling us to go beyond ourselves and jump in with both feet. Love wants us to love, because that's how it grows and spreads. By avoiding relationships, we're actually defeating the heart's deepest desire. Of course, every situation is different, and there are times when solitude is appropriate, but the opportunity presented by this life is a rare one, and that's especially true now. If people like us withdraw, what will remain to make the kind of difference we would like to see? Who are we serving by pulling away? On the other hand, by immersing ourselves in the stream and bustle of life every now and then, we will find that we are also served. That's what unity consciousness is all about, serving and being served. If it really is "all God", then what part of God is not worthy of being engaged? I suppose what I am getting at is, we need to question our reluctance too -- is the motive selfish and fear-based, for instance? It's important to look closely.

My friend has recently been studying enneagrams. In a workshop they asked people to go stand in one of 3 groups which represent their motivating drive in life --- Social, Sexual, Self-Preserving

Here's the link from which I've excerpted:

".... I found that the instinctual drives appear to be not only instrumental in distinguishing the different styles of manifesting our Enneagram type behavior, but also perhaps the stronger, more unconscious, yet all-pervasive element of our personality type. Our instinctual drives motivate us in the ongoing human struggle to create and sustain relationships, to aggressively seek what we need to survive, and to defend what we have and fear losing. Clearly, the journey toward wholeness might well include the conscious exploration of these relatively untraveled, instinctual roads, and thus ultimately lead to a more balanced and integrated awareness..."

Wow you basically wrote what I have concluded in that beautifully written quotation from the study In that eventually none of this motivators are bad and aree needed in order to compare, contrast and eventually be able to unify them into a new form of society that strides for balance and acceptance. Rather that have one with surpluses and a judgemental outlook.

[truth4me]

Posted by Flash (here)
May be....

Just may be....

Conspiracy forums have this impact on people...

I think we learn so much by the forums we visit. I know if I read something on here that interest me I research it and become more enlighten by it. What the the WORLD not mother Earth has to offer is something that I do not want anymore. I have to work with this women who loves to talk about guns. She mentions about how she carries one and about her father being a gun lover too. I understand protecting yourself but guns are made for killing plain and simple. This is what I mean by being out of touch with the people of the WORLD.....