Yes, some people can be quite toxic, quite often. I’ve noticed that probably 50% of the people I’ve known who were seriously engaged in true spiritual evolvement had a family member who was psychotic. Both my father and later my step-father were psychotic, but I never worked that out in either of their cases until after they were dead. I believe I’ve resolved all the issues with them by now. However, after he died when I was sixteen, my father hung around as an earthbound spirit, waiting furiously for decades until I would die – at seventy, according to him – so that he could get his “revenge” on me for I’m not sure what. Eventually, about ten years ago, after considerable help he realized he was the one with the toxic problem, and he left.Posted by teradactyl (here)
i ... see what you are saying about "understand her and yourself sufficiently that you wouldn’t have a problem about seeing her"; however, i suppose you would agree that malicious and insulting energy (vampire energy) is something to avoid if possible. im not quite apt to clear her energy, i would seriously say that she is surrounded(hitchhiker) by negative energy. she is very venomous, where as her words can be sweet, but they sting. and from a distance, she is vicious. i find that distance is necessary for me at this time.
on another note, i feel like she does lighten up around my daughter. but thats it.
There was also my brother, who was three-and-a-half years older than me. He wasn’t psychotic, but he was very competitive and jealous from when I was age four. Imagine the combined effect of the three primary examples of maleness that I had in my childhood conditioning. The result was that my ability to understand males – such as who was really friendly and who wasn’t – was rather skewed for many years. I feel I’m pretty much over that problem of understanding other males by now. Only because the universe/Source, with the HS’s help, keeps setting up employment situations and other situations and friendships where whatever needs more work tends to get plenty of opportunity to be further developed.
That’s not all. This is unusual, but probably my worst egoic aberrations occurred not in childhood but as a result of my marrying my (now ex-) wife in my early thirties. She was a very poor choice of partner, and it turned out she was psychotic as well. The only reason I can find for having chosen her was that I subconsciously wanted to learn more about disharmony, and how to use disharmony to become stronger – which, it so happens, was probably my primary purpose behind being born here in this lifetime. No doubt another reason was that I hadn’t had enough variety in partners to tell who would make a great partner. In retrospect, I’d had at least a few partners who were extraordinary, caring, sensitive, intelligent women. Anyway, I don’t know whether even now, decades later, I’ve fully repaired the damage from having been married to such a woman for a few years.
In my twenties and thirties there were times when I could have sworn my parents were the devil. Quite often, in those years, it seemed like communicating with them served no worthwhile purpose, except that my HS continually insisted it was a good thing. This brings me to the whole subject of egocentricity and seeing beyond it.
Egocentricity may be a long word, but it sums up the essence of the ego in the spiritual sense of “ego”. A huge lesson the HS needs to teach us somehow, in some lifetime, is that its still small “voice” may be in total conflict with everything we suppose to be reasonable for us and in our interests. Here our parents are often invaluable to the HS. Learning to somehow mildly tolerate our parents when our parents become intolerable – let me suggest that’s a huge breakthrough, a huge lesson. It’s the type of lesson we have to “pass” in, or else how will we ever get to the vastness and the omni-inclusiveness of the HS?
Once a very experienced management efficiency expert explained to me how in his experience what makes large corporations inefficient or corrupt, when they are, is always egocentricity. I don’t believe he was wrong. The person who hasn't overcome egocentricity lives in a one-eyed universe. They may perhaps believe, to give one example, that we are all ruled over by those ever so nasty archontic parasites.
Over time we grow more and more emotionally mature and stable. If needed, we drag our parents along with us to some degree, while they are maturing further themselves to some degree at least. Life is about learning to be more well-rounded, to handle anything and anyone. If that was easy to do, the adventure wouldn’t have nearly as much challenge to it and wouldn’t be as valuable in the long run. These days, in my seventh decade, I find it’s like the universe is “talking” to me in a broad sort of way all the time. Each situation it brings up fits into the whole of my life and is a necessary part of the whole. Each little area of life experience is needed, and I no longer shun it.
If I had a “witch” of a mother and I shunned her too strongly in my heart, that would mean the universe would have to arrange further poison apples from someone else. You can avoid Mum physically somewhat, but don’t lock her out of your heart or your thoughts. Let me assure you she lives inside your heart, no matter what you do. After her death she – at least, a copy of her --will live on in there too. By that stage, you’ll probably have learnt to feel the love, and all the other nonsense that ever happened will seem trivial, or eventually it will. Life is strange.
May I absolutely reassure you, though, that every inch, every dot of contact you have with the Water of Life, the HS, adds a whole huge, other level to everything. And it all comes back to you beneficially in the very long run, if not sooner.




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