It Might Be Time To Fire Your Friends

[ulli]

Posted by Carmody (here)
One thing I find very interesting is that if one is quite stable and capable of deep insight into the human condition, including their own..and has a developed ability to live in honesty of self, all the way through the levels of consciousness: that potential partners dwindle in number, exponentially, logarithmically from the center point of 'normal' awareness.

If one focuses on a person for a second or two, as a potential look at a person, as a potential partner, that this level of separation is viewed by some as incomprehensible, creepy, layered in confusion for them, as if I was hiding something. As the reflection of it has them staring into the muddied grey of themselves.

You ought to have married a modern day version of Xanthippe
and would have lived happily ever after.
There is a lot of merit in having such a partner.
Hey, she even trampled on a cake one of her husband's fans had sent him.
What a woman.
Hey, maybe you have yet to meet her. By my calculations she is eight years old right now.

[Shezbeth]

One thing that seems particularly endemic is the societal response to stillness.

When one develops a degree of inner calm or stillness, and is not subsequently moved or upset by drama, chaos, or inconsistency in their environment, one is seen as 'different'. 'Normal' people respond emotionally and erratically to to all manner of stimuli, so naturally there 'must be something wrong (ha!) with the person who does not'. People act aggressively, emotionally, manipulatively, etc. toward me all the time, and yet for my unwillingness to be moved or upset I am marked as 'weird', 'strange', etc.

From a psychological standpoint, I would suggest that this is a subconscious response to the feeling of dissatisfaction to the observance that I am not receptive to various stimuli geared toward causing an effect in me. Sorry, that was awfully wordy. What I mean is people who would try to upset me get upset at seeing they can't upset me; the labeling of 'weird', 'different', etc. is an attempt to rationalize their being upset while preventing conscious recognition of what they're actually trying to do. I especially observe this in 'superiors' (professionally) who make all kinds of comments and assertions geared toward instilling a feeling of inadequacy or insufficiency. I believe the phrase is "I will not be moved".

For reference, I suggest that the difference between 'authoritative' and 'authorized' is that the former comes from experience and potency, while the latter is by decree or fiat.

The phenomenon of trying to instill fear or instability in one's subordinates seems particularly endemic, especially in individuals who are by nature non-authoritative. One will try and encourage a perceived lack of authority in those 'beneath' them to assuage both the authority of the subordinates and to inflate their feeling of being authoritative, even though undermining one's subordinates is diverse to the concept of authoritative. A true authority would seek to benefit and encourage one's subordinates, not try and break them down and make them feel less adequate.

Sorry, that was only minimally related to the topic, in that some of the same behaviors, perceptions, and patterns can be observed equally in a mutual 'friend' relationship as with a professional one.

[rgray222]

Has your spiritual awakening cost you friends?

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=UQPJHKid2m8

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[Sidney]

In the end, it is not their fault. I think each soul awakens at their own pace, when it is right for them. I was one of the sleepy sheeps only 8 or 9 years ago. Was I dumb then? No, but I was in the mode that all the other sleepy people are today. When you grow up inside a society when there is heirarchy, you are taught that they are above and we are below, therefore they are wiser and we will learn and follow. There is an unspoken level of trust that is instilled in us from childhood.

SHOCKED- is the only word that can describe the day I realized that our own heirarchy deliberately harms its own. I mean I was literally shocked to my core. My research went deeper and deeper. This was not an overnight process, but took a few years before a larger picture emerged from all the smaller pieces I gathered. AkA, the matrix. After a while, the shock wears off and you are left incapable of engaging in superficial life as we have been raised with. Everything is superficial in the society where I once felt I belonged (not fit in). Everything is fake now. Fake personalities, fake hair,nails,boobs, butts, food,clouds, snow,healthcare,justice system, and wars. It is a hard pill to swallow when you see.

Other people that cannot see it are only victims of the brainwashing of media and technology and maybe are not equipped to handle the truth. I pray for them, not judge, but that does not mean I have to be in their company. I simply choose not to. We are all connected. I am them, and they are me.

[rgray222]

A Man Found A Hidden Note At The San Francisco Airport. What It Said Is a Must See.

We will find inspiration and strength when we least expect it. While making his way through the San Francisco airport, one man came across a folded piece of parchment that said something interesting on the front: read me.

So, he did.

What he discovered inside was absolutely priceless gift. It was a heartwarming and motivational tale from a complete stranger. He just had to share its contents online. You’ll be so glad he did.

This is about a relationship but the freeing aspect of change can apply to friends just as easily.

This is what he saw…

And this is what was inside. A heartfelt letter and this pendant.

This is what the note read:
I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship After months of insults I wont repeat, false accusations, lies, delusions, broken mirrors, nightly battles…. I left. I know that I was being poisoned by each day that I stayed. So with a heavy heart, I left my lover of three years, knowing that I had already put it off too long. At first he begged, then he cursed, but eventually he paced his bags and faded out of my life like a bad dream. For the first few weeks, my body seemed to reject this. For three years I had seen the world through him-colored glasses. I didn’t know who I was without him. Despite the kindness of friends and even strangers. I could not help feeling utterly alone. But it was this sense of aloneness that set me free. Somewhere along the way, I let go. I released all of the painful memories, the names he had called me, the shards of him buried deep in my brain. I stopped believing the things hehad made me think about myself. I began to see how extraordinary, breathtakingly beautiful life is. I meditated, drank too much coffee, talked to strangers, laughed at nothing. I wrote poetry and stopped to smell and photograph every flower. Once I discovered that my happiness depends only on myself, nothing could hurt me anymore. I have found and continue to find peace. Each day I am closer to it than I was yesterday. I am a work in progress but I am full to the brim with gratitude and joy. And so, since I have opened a new chapter in my life, I want to peacefully part with the contents of the last chapter. The end of my relationship was the catalyst for a wealth of positive changes in my life. It was a symbol, most importantly, it was an act of self-love. It was a realization that I deserved to be happy and I could choose to be. And so, in an effort to leave behind the things that do not help me grow, I am letting go of a relic from the painful past. I wore this necklace-a gift from him-every day for over tow years. To me, letting it go is a joyous declaration that I am moving forward with strength and grace and deep, lasting peace. Please accept this gift as a reminder that we all deserve happiness. Whoever you are, and whatever pain you have faced, I hope you find peace.
Namaste,
Jamie