Do you feel ready now to meet the right one?

[3(C)+me]

I think I am going to rattle a few cages with this post but here it goes. I am a women and most of my life I have had girlfriends who have been obsessed with "finding mr right, my soulmate, the big love" now I am older and I think what passes for finding love is more like someone attempting to find someone outside of themselves to fill the hole. The things that pass of love is really a lack of self love and self acceptance. I think society has placed ideas like it is not good to alone, not be part of a couple and that you are a loser if that is what happens. People need to feel ok within their own skins and if that happens things usually fall into place, if someone is going to come into your life it will happen in the meantime best do some work on yourself and intent to feel ok within your own skin which sounds easy but is anything but people will do anything to avoid finding a space where they are no longer looking out there for peace but finding it inside themselves.

[Natalia]

^while most people go through stages in life like that, where they are too needy, and do need to work on themselves...the desire for a loving relationship is natural, innocent, and simple...just like the desire for food...

I love this song (love being a romantic even though I can be shy!)

John Lennon - Love

"Love is real , real is love
Love is feeling , feeling love
Love is wanting to be loved

Love is touch, touch is love
Love is reaching, reaching love
Love is asking to be loved

Love is you
You and me
Love is knowing
we can be

Love is free, free is love
Love is living, living love
Love is needed to be loved"

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=2GmVajkqLNU

[Natalia]

Posted by Omniverse (here)
I would love to meet the right person. But I'm not sure that will ever happen. And if it does I'm not sure I'll be able to follow through due to my situation with the US government. They do things like control my eyes and make me look up at my eyebrows painfully. They told me if i ever had a wedding they would do it during the wedding.... They have already done it so much my better than 20/20 vision has turned into fuzzy at 100 feet away trying to read street signs due to them straining my eyes looking up as much as possible for eyes to look upward.... I'm also very picky(not so much with appearance but with the mind). It's literally one in a million women I would be able to be with due to my situation. Not to mention I have very little money and no car. I haven't given up though.

I hope you find her <3

[Flash]

to your question the answer is yes

But the actual right one would not be the same right one it would have been in my twenties, and the other right one in my thirties, and the next right one in my forties. LOLLLL

[Natalia]

Posted by Flash (here)
to your question the answer is yes

But the actual right one would not be the same right one it would have been in my twenties, and the other right one in my thirties, and the next right one in my forties. LOLLLL

hehehe yeah, I see it that there are the right ones for now, and/or the right one for the rest of your life...for some people, like my grandmother and grandfather, there was only one, and they had a wonderful relationship, the magic stayed alive until the end <3

[Flash]

Posted by Amethyst (here)

Posted by Flash (here)
to your question the answer is yes

But the actual right one would not be the same right one it would have been in my twenties, and the other right one in my thirties, and the next right one in my forties. LOLLLL

hehehe yeah, I see it that there are the right ones for now, and/or the right one for the rest of your life...for some people, like my grandmother and grandfather, there was only one, and they had a wonderful relationship, the magic stayed alive until the end <3

LOL What i meant is that we change over time and our views, desires, will, loving ways, change too. Some of us do grow in harmony together within the changes, but if not, the right one has to change too, not to stop one's evolution.

When i read my post hindsight, i do look like changing right ones often, lol, which is not the case, i have been alone, which i enjoyed for most of my life, and lonely which i did not enjoy for a good part too.

I lately discovered that a lot of loneliness is related either to fear of involvement or to beliefs that have in fact nothing to do with the way human beings are really made. Staying alone is a good thing, being lonely is the sign that you have to change something in yourself.

I also discovered very late indeed that we do have needs that are human, and that all of our being has to be respected, loved, and its needs fulfilled with joy - throw away false beliefs, religious constraints detrimental to the being and respect the nature of oneself, physical, spiritual, emotional.

[Natalia]

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Posted by Amethyst (here)

Posted by Flash (here)
to your question the answer is yes

But the actual right one would not be the same right one it would have been in my twenties, and the other right one in my thirties, and the next right one in my forties. LOLLLL

hehehe yeah, I see it that there are the right ones for now, and/or the right one for the rest of your life...for some people, like my grandmother and grandfather, there was only one, and they had a wonderful relationship, the magic stayed alive until the end <3

Posted by Flash (here)
LOL What i meant is that we change over time and our views, desires, will, loving ways, change too. Some of us do grow in harmony together within the changes, but if not, the right one has to change too, not to stop one's evolution..

Yeah, I know what you mean. This can be more difficult (in a way) when one is married with kids and the relationship isn't right or healthy anymore (I've not been married or had children).

Posted by Flash (here)
When i read my post hindsight, i do look like changing right ones often, lol, which is not the case, i have been alone, which i enjoyed for most of my life, and lonely which i did not enjoy for a good part too.

Same with me, and feeling lonely is something that has come and gone with me...up and down...it seems to me to be a natural part of having a human experience, though if we feel very painfully lonely, often, it could mean that there is something inside us that needs healing...

Posted by Flash (here)
I lately discovered that a lot of loneliness is related either to fear of involvement or to beliefs that have in fact nothing to do with the way human beings are really made. Staying alone is a good thing, being lonely is the sign that you have to change something in yourself.

I also discovered very late indeed that we do have needs that are human, and that all of our being has to be respected, loved, and its needs fulfilled with joy - through away false beliefs, religious constraints detrimental to the being and respect the nature of oneself, physical, spiritual, emotional.

One of my favorite love lyrics is "How many times do I have to tell you. Even when you're crying you're beautiful too" ~ John Legend.

Which reminds me, today I was crying a bit on the bus, surrendered to it and it's gentle flow...of healing tears...and sitting quietly with it...suddenly I saw this attractive man who was standing up before he came to sit down, looking at me with loving eyes and as if he found something about me beautiful...I was surprised and did not expect that, but it felt nice!

I've experienced both joy and sadness a lot in my life...I have accepted this, that it is ok, and natural. I would rather that and be open, than not be in touch with my feelings and be too hard on myself about it.

[Natalia]

There is someone out there for everyone - most could meet them...

Don't let anyone destroy your faith in love, or keep it destroyed...because of their own pessimism...(unless you want that for yourself).

We don't have to be perfect, or always happy and secure in every moment, to find love, with the right one

True love, we can be honest with...

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=fPNhnhUphwM

[Rich]

I don't get lonely, but sad about it sometimes (self pity).

Why not take one from here, some people here share the same interests they could be compatible?
When I was a member in a raw food forum a guy made a thread saying he was looking for a girlfriend
and at least one girl was interested, they met and became a couple.

[GloriousPoetry]

I met my twin flame over 7 years ago...... I walked away 4 years ago because I didn't fully understand its implications.....I now know why he came into my life.....it's about the work we are suppose to do in this world and not about the old played out romantic relationship most people seek in this world. Twin soul union is about changing old templates of relationships and embodying a frequency to carry out a mission for humanity......a 3rd energy is created ........so no I don't feel lonely regarding a romantic relationship with a man since my purpose in this world is to fulfill my soul's work........right now I'm learning to surrender to this process and trust that the universe will divinely direct and protect this union.....here is a poem I wrote back in 2009 ....at the time I didn't understand what I was intuitively writing about ....but now I understand completely......and now I must trust the universe that everything will be taken care of as long as I trust and hold a space in my heart for this man...

Inside the eye of the heart
three overtures of a divine
order decree what is meant
to be free and for all healers
to see, a true resonance with
the divine balance in life and
an opened spiritual door to
higher dimensions of light....

[homesickalien]

I woke up about 20 years ago and I feel like I live in a completely differerent reality to everybody else. I've always felt different and felt that the world was nothing llike how we were taught it was. I started to discover how things really were about 20 years ago. I find that being awake brings great loneliness as I just want to connect with like minded people but everybody I know is completely oblivious to how things really are and it makes me feel isolated and on a different planet.

I've had health challenges pretty much my entire life which I have written about in another thread. When you have an invisible illness / disability it makes things even more challenging as people don't understand how I feel due to my health problems let alone what it feels to be conscious and awake. I feel isolated because I can't find people who I can relate to and I've been unable to seek out people I can relate to due to health challenges and lack of energy.

I feel that I would have to meet somebody very much like myself for her to even come close to understanding me. I think I've always doubted that such a person exists for me in this lifetime and that makes me feel very lonely.

Having spent so much time alone the thought of being in a relationship is so alien to me I'm not sure I'll ever be ready.

[Menkaure]

Posted by mpennery (here)
I always found that when I was looking, the right lady never came along but when I stopped looking (and thinking or worrying about it) and focused on just living life to my fullest, it happened.

Matt

I couldn't agree more! Thats what happened to me!

[Natalia]

With the "you will find them when you are not looking", or "when you least expect it" thing...it's not a black and white rule that works for everyone always...

Someone could find someone when looking, or not...

Someone could meet someone when not looking, or not expected, or not...

And it seems to me that most people look and then don't look, and it goes around...so naturally at some points, the one who is looking or focusing on it, will not look, not focus on it, and how many times do they go through that and not meet the right person, until they do? So, to me, it's not just a matter of when you don't do something or do it, but when along your journey...being ready and the timing...for the individual person, cause we all have different life journeys...

As for some people, they may look but not expect, or just generally not expect, it is hard for them to believe, for these people, to expect or just believe that it will happen, may help them to be more open to it and for it to happen to them...

I'm just saying this cause I am aware that sometimes things are different for different people...and sometimes hope is important...

[giovonni]

looking out for while going insane ...

Big Love

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=gdd_fv0xrSo

[Shezbeth]

I have to disagree with the 'When you're not looking you find' premise; not only was this the inverse of my experience, but I found when I was willing to go to lengths I hadn't gone previously and in a manner that only I could. By being willing to pursue avenues and methods I had previously scoffed at - but without compromising my character, timing (synchronicity), and methodology - only then did I find who I was looking for, and only I could have 'passed the test' that life had issued in finding her.

In short, finding the 'one' for me was kind of like a scavenger hunt/obstacle course; I do not advise 'not' looking, but individual results may vary and taking a step back can be useful.

[Natalia]

^My friends tell me that I have to get out more and meet new people - not just women in my dance classes! (btw, I wouldn't mind being hunted )

[Christine]

This particular video has done more for my spiritual comprehension of why we seek relationships than probably any other single thing. Now, of course I have several decades of experience.

Source: https://youtube.com/watch?v=5i_9Zn7z6Hk

[Natalia]

I was talking a bit about this to my friend at work today, and said how some people see a natural desire to have a relationship as something wrong and needing to fill a hole...then I said, but holes are meant to be filled...we both went silent then both had girly giggles at what else that could mean! *giggle*

[vilcabamba]

I like Shirley McClaine's answer on a tv interview. They asked her if she would get married and her response was..only if he gets out of a space ship and he was Plaeidian. I agree! I'm done with 3D relationships.

[778 neighbour of some guy]

Posted by Amethyst (here)
^My friends tell me that I have to get out more and meet new people - not just women in my dance classes! (btw, I wouldn't mind being hunted )

Funny you say that, a couple of months ago I decided to put myself out there again, and seriously this time, and since I don't seem to meet someone special in the supermarket, at work, when I am out or what ever, I registered on a dating site, a couple of sorta interesting things happened ( depending how you fill out your profile of course), a few dates, some pretty scary ones too ( one lady had no eyesbrows in person, and I sat there staring at that hairless shiny forehead with my mouth open thinking wtf is your deal lady, well that was no success obviously, almost poked my right out three times with the spoon sticking out of my coffee), however tomorrow 13:15 I have a date with someone I have talked to for hours now over the phone and a couple of hundred longer and shorter emails in 5 days or something like that, and tomorrow we are going to meet for the first time and we are both nervous as hell because so far we seem to hit it off pretty good, some bantering and deepsoul diving already took place so we are both somewhat exploding from anticipation to see what will happen tomorrow, prolly not the smartest thing to do, expecting to much that is, but its also quite exciting, so I am about to iron my favorite pair of jeans and shirt, polish my shoes and crap my pants at the same time, would be nice to fall in love again and to both turn into complete idiots who don't care if the world blows up tomorrow or not, we'll see what happens tomorrow, anyway, we are both pleasantly excited to see face to face and hug each other hello for the first time. Fingers crossed.