Longing for social intelligence, emotional intelligence & spiritual intelligent talk without using religious dogmas!

[ExomatrixTV]

Who too, can relate to this?

Total new stranger via FaceBook Personal Message asks me: "How are you...my friend?"

~my response:

I do not use the word "friend" easily.
It is not something you "play" with.
So you ask me a personal question, on the bases of what?
.... that I am a friend? How can you if you do not even know me?

See, chitchat everybody can do that, no big deal, but am not like that.
Most people knows what the "other" want to hear or read, thus ending up in expectations & assumptions! Like a house of cards, crashing when reality kicks in.

Reality = far more deeper & heavier with me than people talking about the weather & "nice fun stuff".
I rarely meet real people, most want to fit in another's (programmed?) behaviour claiming to be "free" ... but are they really free?
Trapped in expectations & own created assumptions?
Can/do you follow my insights? Comprehend what the vast majority are doing most of the time?

For me it feels like shallow talk, no real deal, just chitchat:
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/chitchat

Sometimes "chitchat" can lead to more real social intelligence, emotional intelligence & spiritual intelligent talk.
if that happens not fast enough ... I always feel am wasting my time here ... who can relate to my Aspereger and/or HSP behaviour?

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/longing
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person

Cheers, :')
John Kuhles aka ExomatrixTV 25-05-2015
https://www.facebook.com/infopowerment

https://www.facebook.com/notes/john-...53365950294885

[Tesla_WTC_Solution]

edit: Hi John

I like this thread -- it has some hard questions.
Who can relate? Lots of us!

...
ASD...

There is a difference between patience and focus, which itself becomes its own frustration.
ASD people are known for their amazing focus but not their patience.

In today's world, as you said, things happen TOO FAST.
Even on Facebook, people assume a whole lot, sending "friend" requests and spam, as you said.

There is not enough time for what is needed to grow a real relationship.
Maybe not enough time for real emotions to engage.




Back when my great-grandmother was alive, people would spend a great deal of time sitting on their front porches (the front of the house by the yard).
They would have to get all the farm chores done and clean up again, but they really valued their "social time" and relaxation time.

In our day and age, people don't seem to wait as long for those things.
They want to immediately "relax and unwind" without doing the work of a real friendship.

It's possible to meet people this way, but it's not always the best way to meet the best people.
If that makes sense.




Lots of the people on Facebook are looking for an "easy fix"; i.e. a temporary "upper" before wandering to the next thing.
Of course there are plenty of "normal" people on Facebook too, but the Internet has a pretty significant effect on the human personality.

It can wear you out quickly, so it's important to learn from us addicts and save some of your energy for the Slow World.

Age does not wait even though our social shortcomings demand that we wait.

XD

I hope that was not too brutal.

[ExomatrixTV]

Tesla_WTC_Solutionthanks ... love your response <<< that is me expressing myself about me!

[Sith73]

In taking the Meyers Briggs Assessment I'm classified as a ENFJ

An overview of being an ENFJ consist of the following four dimensions with my test results. 12% Intuition over Sensing, 44% Extraversion over Introversion, 56% Judging over Perceiving, 12% Feeling over Thinking. ENFJ’s Intuition is explained that we look to the future rather than focus on the present day world which leads to focus on the bigger picture rather the smaller details in life. ENFJ’s Extraversion explain that we are social creatures and like to spend time with others. Being in social events empowers us. ENFJ’s Judging explains us as being very structured and organized which helps us to feel in control. ENFJ’s Feeling explains us in that we are very concerned about how things will affect others in making important decisions

[Noel]

thanks ExomatrixTV I have to agree with your perception, or should I say my perception of what I believe you perceive. that every one is trying to fit in some one else's perception of how things should be. in reality you have the free will to follow the very rigid list of guidelines set out for you, you are free to do what ever you can imagine as long as you do not harm yourself or others, damage the environment, disturb someone else's chosen path in this life. the list goes on I would think believing we are free gives us the advantage of less stress which improves quality of life and health but at this stage our spiritual development we are limited in our ability to understand what we are really here for.