Posted by 1inMany
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Please send healing to my husband. I asked his permission, and he said, "Fire em up. I can use all the help I can get." Prayers, lights, thoughts, any and all are welcome and appreciated.
Mike is a person of responsibility in a company of approximately 50 people. He has worked at this company for about 8 years. His boss, and the only person in the company who holds a position "higher" on the ladder than he, is the owner/CEO. The boss comes in to the office about once a week for a couple of hours. Otherwise, he is absent. That is a good thing because the man is an addict, heroin I believe. Years ago, when people started noticing the track marks on his arms, he changed to smoking it. With recent lung problems, I can't imagine what is left as a viable inlet. The boss was seen last week driving his Mercedes through an unsavory part of Dallas, Oak Cliff, where rival gangs are seen in the streets with machine guns.
My husband has taken the "buffer" position between this monster and the normal people who work there...fighting against him when the boss decides to withhold bonus money or cut their pay for no legitimate reason. He has fought against the boss on behalf of people with serious illnesses and cancer who would have been fired.
And, you all know, this position of stress took a toll on Mike's health. As of yesterday, our doctor is extremely happy with the positive results of the changes in diet and exercise Mike has implemented.
The problem, though, is that we are afraid this job is about to be taken away. Mike is a Libra, he weighs everything 10 ways to Sunday before making a decision. Three years ago, Mike worked with very wealthy people to produce a business plan for either 1) starting his(our) own company or 2) buying the company he works for. Mike needs to be away from this boss. During that past 3 years, there have been 3 opportunities that I am aware of for Mike to leave the current company and start his own, with financial backing. Each time, he thought it best to give the current boss a chance to step away, and each time the current boss did not. He did, however, offer a carrot....maybe a little more money, but most often his carrots are "one day you will own this place" or "one day this will be all yours"...it was always bullsh!t. Also during this three year period, relationships have developed into job opportunities. But, Mike thought it best to stay the course so as not to lose the security he (we) had.
As I write this, it has become clear that the boss may be trying to find a reason to sabotage the company, making it worth little, or sabotage Mike, leaving him with nothing...including a job.
Mike financially cares for/helps my brother, our daughter and grandson, this second place (for our two daughters remaining at home), and are other grandchildren as we can. That's 3 car payments, 2 mortgages, utilities for 4 families...that's a helluva lot of responsibility.
And this man is stubborn, let me tell ya. He will do what he decides to do. He respects me, he comes to me for help with situations and problems constantly, but when I feel compelled to say "Walk Away! We will Be Okay!" it becomes complicated. He remembers a time when he had no job and mine didn't make a dent in things...and we had nothing but a car. My family offered a home, we rebuilt from there...and he has a very real fear of returning to that dark place.
I did not share this for sympathy or to get attention. It is deeply personal, and I would rather not have to share it. But in asking for help for him, I found myself not knowing what kind of help to ask for. In an instant, I knew the only way to get the right kind of spiritual backing was to explain the situation the best I can.
Much Love, and so much gratitude......
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