I've seen not only Buddhist monks who were, say, very ascetic and consequently not much fun, but many people, some of them also female, who've come from different traditions or systems or combinations of traditions etc. If they were Buddhists, surely they were contradicting the Buddha's middle way, which as we know says moderation in absolutely all things -- and there are strongish hints in that about the need for coming back to groundedness and practicality and true balance with the Whole, and all its parts, right now.Posted by Highwhistler (here)
I gave a good test-drive to all techniques and their belief systems that came my way. I especially liked the open psychic spaces of Buddhist meditation, but found the male monks and their followers to be spiritually robotic in 3D space and not very much fun to be around. I still love their safron robes and all that ... but felt most of them to be lacking in true joy, expansive inner freedom, and without any assimilation of the energies, insights and mind-styles that are native to children and women. Still, when people ask me what type of spiritual thing I do, I often reply: "It's like Buddhism ... but with a hell of a lot more fun."
Another behavior which I'd consider misguided is to become a hermit, or semi-hermit, even maybe a homeless person, for a significant period. I've seen this happen with quite a few advanced "spiritual practitioners" or extremely aware people. Such people reach a point where they clearly see that interactively living in the everyday world and society requires them to tolerate and implicitly support various idiotic things. But total withdrawal certainly isn't what I see as true detachment. If you're detached enough it shouldn't really affect your cool whether actually you're in garbage and insanity or not. There are various shades of withdrawal, too. They can be useful for a certain period, for reasons analogous to how a baby plant can grow in a hothouse with a better chance of its survival. But it can be very tempting for a person to remain withdrawn. That can affect their confidence at doing certain things "in the world".
One of the difficulties with asceticism is that it can repress the inner child, put heavy weights on it. It so happens I used to have a Hitchhiker who had been a fourth century Chinese Ch'an Buddhist head monk. Everybody seems to have at least one Hitchhiker living right in their heart or the center of their personality. There's no point arguing or pretending that isn't real -- even if it's subtle. That Buddhist monk made it tough for me for a while to retrieve my inner child and some of the carefree aspects of my sense of playfulness. These are essential, though, because without them you're deprived of much of the pleasure of human-to-human communication. That monk was rather ascetic in various ways. It's quite a subtle skill just to become accurately and precisely aware of who a Hitchhiker inside you is. It also takes great detachment to remove such a Hitchhiker from yourself, or someone else. You can partly work out who the most dominant Hitchhiker deep inside you is by looking at feedback from other people. What do they see in you that you don't really see as "you"? That identity you're somewhat blind to, and that's maybe most of the time part of your shadow, that's what we're looking for.
Actually, my own research suggests that maybe over 50% of Hitchhikers are actually a person's own personalities from relatively recent past lifetimes.
That Chinese monk identity didn't know or understand that in our society it's necessary for a spiritually aware individual to save money or assets, particularly for their retirement. In fourth century Chinese culture, for a spiritually aware individual to have done so would have been hugely shameful and crooked. Because this monk identity was just the mental body, the personality, of a monk who had died in the fourth century and not the monk himself (not his HM), it had no capacity to fundamentally change the knowledge it had. It was frozen in time. To make matters worse, it was one of my past-life personalities, and therefore believed itself to be at least as expert regarding me, and what's good for me, as myself. Let me explain that as far as I know this is my first physical incarnation on this planet, But because I was such a newbie when I volunteered to come here, I adopted some "downloads" of others' past-life memories to serve as if they had been my own.
I got rid of the monk personality at ten a.m. one morning. I felt so tired I immediately had to sleep, and didn't wake up till six p.m. I had tickets for a theater performance that evening, went to that and returned home and slept till after mid-day the following day. That was how drained of energy my body and nervous system felt. Such tiredness isn't unusual, except in degree, after we successfully and suddenly release a major identity we've had which wasn't really us.
Some of you may have seen the astral or mental bodies of people who died centuries ago, and separated from. These bodies will often make themselves look just like their owner did. The mental body lives on for centuries before it even begins to decay. It contains quite a lot of life-energy for all that time, and a small amount of what we could call small "c" consciousness of a rather robotic variety.
That Chinese monk identity managed to retain at least some cords to my emotional, mental and physical bodies even after the separation. For that reason, I've done my best to avoid monk-like behavior. I don't want to invite him back in. This is a big deal. On the other hand, all the evidence available to me suggests that lengthy periods of many hours of meditation are quite necessary for one's continuing higher spiritual evolution. I usually only meditate for ten or fifeteen minutes per day, and usually that does bring a Silence deep enough to extend through the day. But at some point soon I need to put attention on how I've by now decided to have certain working values that are greatly different from that monk's in certain areas. And I've been inspired by your story, Teka, to take up meditation for an hour or more per day again, hopefully a little longer on weekends maybe.
Finally, I imagine that what you've said about some Buddhist males lacking a true heart connection would, in my terms, partly amount to or have connections with the following. The initial stage of the HM's descent normally involves its entry into the mid-head and throat chakras. But it's quite a further step before permanent descent into the heart center. That brings a great sense of direct intimacy with all other people and beings.




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