Because we don't really know how this works until we do the work for ourselves. That starts inside.
While I acknowledge a need to be able to examine what is an unnerving topic, __something unseen may be controlling me___. its a neccessary evil.
Like what WhiteCrowBlackDeer said, I was afraid to look at the negative side of things.
When I heard that years back, it didn't frighten me, it gave me a sense that I could so something about my own condition. It wasn't just something I had to live with anymore and keep struggling with.
I'ts not negative, its just is what it is. We don't get afraid of mosquitoes because they are leeching on us and just let them bite us. These things are dealt with in the same way.
There is an encyclopedia worth of compromise going on inside some one who cannot examine uncomfortable topics without having an emotional trigger pulled. That is one's cue to...look inside. One that says you not comfortable with yourself. Feelings are accepted, not perpetrated. Sitting in uncomfortable feelings (because we are brainwashed into thinking if we don't feel good ALL the time something is wrong with us). Avoiding dense feelings means....we don't feel good all the time.
The great meme running in spirituality is if 'if you have bad feelings you aren't spiritual".
In order to achieve greater spiritual progress you have to process feelings...in a productive way.
Being afraid of a program is like being afraid of a record player playing the same tune over and over.
There is the other side of the coin of empowerment where these things are dealt with as much emotional investment as wiping off the counters.
I just came from another blame thread, where people claim not to be taught these things. What we sharing here? Are we not showing and teaching with each other? Does anyone feel deprived or that someone is holding back, or keeping information from them?
The program begins to pinch you when you examine it too closely--there's the discomfort. They are self preserving programs...but they are not intelligent programs. This is where we have to use our intelligence and not our feelings. The Higher Self is VERY intelligent. There's no point in pursuing a higher intelligence within if its stupid right? That's what we have our minds for.
Unless we were raised by God are parents no matter how terrific, probably imposed something on us that doesn't belong in us. They didn't have to starve or beat us to impose something unnatural on us. They may have encouraged us down paths with all good intentions that did not serve us, and we walked down them for the wrong reasons--mostly to please them. We don't have to discuss what horrid parents do to us. I'm sure I am aware of it by now, or I at least I hope so, but the thing is are we blaming or using that knowledge to uncover ourselves. My mother was horribly abusive, 24/7. I didn't even know I lived in an abusive situation until I...I knew it. Seen how other mother's behaved. "Oh your mother doesn't come charging at you with a butcher's knife because you were late getting off the bus. How weird!"
That was examining something I was forbidden to examine. Who forbid me?
Conversely those conditions gave me a a set of balls...but only after I cleared out the trauma. Before that I just had defense mechanism, passing as intestinal fortitude.
I am absolutely ruthless with this **** because.... You have a cold but you don't go and deliberately spread it. But we don't think twice (or at all) about spreading our emotional compromise. This not to say I am without compassion but when my mother got cancer from her own programming that was an opportunity to heal. Instead she used Cancer as means to flog her program, until my sisters were in tears 24/7 without relief. It was a manipulators dream come true to have four woman up 24 hours a day waiting on her, being leveraged by her. "I asked for rye toast not wheat. I asked for it to be browned not toasted, I asked for strawberry jam , not jelly. "
Until I cornered and told her I'd stick her ass in a nursing home and see if they'd play her tune of running around toasting loaves of bread until they were just right, (because she had cancer) at three in the morning, and getting the entire hospital in frustrated tears. No sirree they would not. They'd sedate her ass (something we should have thought of ages ago) and stick her into a pallative psychological care treatment.
'you can't talk to me that way, I have cancer."
Oh yeah, well you got worse than that but your not spreading it. Or at least not spreading it without the observer Paul Revering what you are spreading. Talking about it is, examining it, being informed about it, helps prevent the spread of the disease. No one did anything about child abuse, or marital rape, until people opened up and started talking about it.
How do we look inside?
Look at the patterns of events and circumstances and even people that are re occuring in our lives that we don't want. That's not starting externally its starting internally? Are we putting up with those patterns. Seeking to change them? Wishing they would stop. How many times did you marry your mother? Do you want to stop marrying your mother? No? Then shut up. Quit inflicting your mother on everyone else. Because complaining how bad everything is without doing something about it is an attempt to spread the disease.
How hard is it to pause and interrupt yourself during the day and look to see how you are feeling inside? Good? Uncomfortable? Feeling some heaviness somewhere? Feeling nothing at all? Don't know what you are feeling?
Tapping, essential oils, core belief work, uncovering subconscious roles we have assumed,(patterns) challenging our own thoughts, monitoring our thoughts, all of this qualifies as looking within. It may be the tip of the iceberg but it is a start. Once you start digging and feeling lighter you don't want to stop. Life goes on brings more ****, you have to have the shovel out all the time. First its a spade then you can use a hand trowel.
People think its painful to do this and sometimes it is but....a half hour of pain is no where as painful as a lifetime of pain if you don't do it at all. I would much rather do this than get a tooth extracted. I have some control over this. At the dentists I don't get much say in my pain management. The thing is there is pain but there is relief afterwards. It's a process, it took a long time for this **** to take root in us....lifetimes even. The process to extract it is much shorter. One pulls all the tiers, and layers and cording out by the roots, not a branch at a time. You can pull out a dozen years of dysfunction in a matter of a day.